WAYS TO SLAY MORNINGS AS A STAY-AT-HOME WIFE AND MOM

Risen is 5.   This also means that I have been a stay-at-home wife and mom for 5 years now.  In some days, I rock it, sometimes, I do not.  In the times I feel inadequate in juggling chores, freelancing and homeschooling my son, I go back to my game plan.  And guess what?, I think I have mastered a few things that help me go through my day with ease. These steps are practical, basic and super helpful.  To be more specific, these are the chores I cover so my mornings are easy.  Interested in slaying your mornings too?  I am sure you do!!

1.  Make sure you tidy up your sink in the evening so you wake up to a clean area in your kitchen.  A clean sink is like a sweet "good morning".  Try it!  Make your sink sparkly clean tonight and you will see the difference in will make in the morning.  To add, instead of shoving your soiled dishes in the sink, arrange the dirty plates neatly.  This trick will make dish washing less overwhelming

2.  Always have bread, eggs, spreads, cereals and any other breakfast that you can easily whip up in no time.  Why?  Because the first thing that comes to mind is, "Ano bang lulutuin ko?/Anong breakfast? (what will I cook?? What are we having for breakfast?)".  When you have the basic breakfast set, having the first meal of the day will not be as stressful as how you think it is.  

3.  Accept that home can't be clean the whole time so allot one room or space that you can allow to be messy and one room that has to be clean at all times.  In our case, the master bedroom and restrooms are the ones that has to be always the cleanest!!!  When you have at least one room that is breathable, mornings are easier.   


our war room. the only place in the house that can be messy.


4.  Stay away form your phone and social media accounts before sleeping and when you wake up.  I am sometimes guilty of browsing my phone before sleeping and upon waking up (especially when I have to check if Bryan has school).  However, I also know that it is really better when the last thing I do at night is a prayer and a good talk with my husband as I doze off :)

5.  Do you know that even those who does not believe in God tells people that meditation in the morning makes our day better? Therefore, wake up earlier than everyone and pick up your Bible (and coffee) first.  My spiritual mentor told me that the Bible should not be the first one to fall off my list.  Set that alarm and wake up when it rings.  Go  to your corner and say a prayer.

Coffee and Bible (yep, i made that Cappucino)
Mornings can be great when faced with readiness.  Again, being a stay-at-home mom can be overwhelming so choose to have at least one clean room, an empty sink, a ready brekky and a prayer. Let me know if this works for you :)

10 PRACTICAL TIPS TO BE STRESS-FREE ON YOUR WEDDING

1.  Turn off your mobile phone because you do not want to be asked regarding the time of your ceremony and address of your venue.  Nor you do not want to know about guests not coming.  Or a not so good news that might appear on your feed

all photos taken by Catilo Photography

2.   Rent a separate room for your secondary sponsors and parents.  My suggestion is to have YOUR OWN ROOM for preps.  Imagine the chaos if the 3-5 photographers and videographers,  the make-up and hair artists, Coordinators plus the secondary sponsors and others will come in and out of your area. Ang gulo nun!!  The stress is not worth it.  Just get another room for them to avoid the chaos (and drama)


3.  Choose a dependable Maid-of Honor.  Have someone who will function not only in the church but even days before. Sometimes, the reliable ones are those who have been an MOH in the past or have been already married

No Bridesmaids for me.  Just 2 MOH and Secondary Sponsors. 
I also opt not to have photos with the Secondary Sponsors during the preps.
4.  Leave everything to you Coordinator.  Since you hired someone to be in-charge on your wedding, leave the preps, ceremony, reception and after party to them

Rhed Sarmiento was my Coordinator.  No regrets.  I love her.
5.  If you have an open area for the reception, have a plan B just in case it rains

6.  Some people will not make it on your wedding, and that is just okay, okay? Now inhale, exhale

7.  Play good music in your hotel room.  Nothing like feel good songs to brighten up the hours ahead

8.  Stay in the hotel for 2 more nights.  Some weddings end at 9pm and the check out is at 12 noon the next day.  The thought of this makes you want to rush or make sure everything is ironed out because you are already leaving the next day.  If you know that you have 2 more nights in the hotel after your wedding, this triggers the brain to be more relaxed.  If this can't be done, avoid going to work two days after you said "I do"

First night was where we had wedding preps, second night in Tagaytay. 
Then we went home to Ilocos then Phuket for 7 days.


9.  Eat.  I know it will be difficult to digest and have appetite because you are nervous, happy and emotional at the same time.  So my advice is, pick a food that you love, that you can eat in small amounts and "safe", just in case it lands on your robe or worse, gown.

10.  Start with a prayer (and good coffee).  God already knows the turn out, and sometimes it is not as perfect as it would be.  Ask for His guidance and trust that the most beautiful thing is about to unfold


HOW TO WIFE

Hello!

Do you have wives and mothers you follow on IG and FB that helps you be better in this life called "Buhay May Asawa" (Married Life)?  Well, I do and today I want to share them with you.  These are the wives that are both my friends and encourager.  They have whacked wifey-hood by being experts in their fields.  Aliw na aliw ako sa mga posts nila.  And since I know them, I can also attest that the things they share are the lives they live :)

1. Viviene Bigornia of www.fulfilledwomen.com - Vivs, has been a full time mom from the very beginning.  She also blogs and facilitates training, however, the core of her being is this:  She aims to help women find and run after their God-given passion. She does group and one on one coaching.  She also asks the tough questions that will make you rethink and "redo" your life.  





2.  Gracie Miranda-Maulion of @tipidmommy - I get my all around tipid tips from Gracie. From grocery, to raising a pre-schooler, to honoring God with our finances, to going on trips to managing a business.  She is also very practical and responds fast to questions!  She actually has a talk this Saturday on how to be a matipid na Mommy.  Visit her IG for deets :)

3. Dorcas Brion of @bibongpinay - This friend is not plastic, ma-papel sya (joke po ito, sana na gets mo ;) ).  Why did I say this?  Because she is also known as a human printer.  She offers planners, booklets, menu planners, etc.  I love her because she shares her craft that is good for everyday use.  Also, if not humorous, her posts are always relevant to my life as a woman, wife and mom.

photo from Leny Ortega

If you want me to connect you to them, let me know :)  Also, if you want to sit down with us to get to know us or our brand, just comment or message me.  You may find me here in my office, also known as www.micosadorra.com. And wait, let me end this with a barkada pic!  Missing you, ladies!

(L-R) Viv, Cas, Gracie and Me :)









WHY PUTTING MY BUSINESS LAST WAS THE BEST DECISION I HAVE MADE FOR 2018

I have been pulling my hair out trying to figure out how I can grow my hosting and training business .  Since the late quarter of 2017, I have been wanting to aim higher and dream bigger. I mean, it is just right, di 'ba? Every business owner, freelancer, entrepreneur would like to be better every year.

With this in mind, I kept on asking the Lord how.  I also nagged Him to give me wisdom, ideas and more clients.  However, God has been silent.  He asked me to focus on Him instead.  I was not convinced so I asked Him more.  He still did not answer.

I stopped asking and tried my best to focus on Him and settle on for 2018.  Then on the series of events, conferences and journaling, I realized something.  In order to be bigger on the things I want to accomplish, I need to embrace who I am first.  And who am I first?  Let me share to you what I enumerated on my journal:

1.  Christian
- salt and light
- be a disciple and discipler

2.  Wife
- support Bryan in all areas
- homemaker

3.  Mother
- Homeschool Risen
- Train and journey with Risen

4. Freelancer
- Host
- blogger
- owner of Soli Deo Events Management

5.  Daughter, a sister, a friend, church volunteer
- connect to family and a community

When I realized who I am first, I felt so bad for neglecting what God intended me to be primarily.  In many occasions, I have frowned upon working on chores (if only I could answer a client's inquiry), whined at Risen for wanting to play longer (I have an email to answer), I also thought of my time go to waste with all the cooking and cleaning I have to do (I could have been blogging instead), and the many instances I folded clothes and tidied our cabinets with a heavy heart (If only I can go to a coffee shop now and work on my laptop).  God rebuked me and told me, "Hey, I did not create you to work and grow your business.  I made you mine, Bryan's and Risen's FIRST" 

This humbled me and made me ask for forgiveness because for sometime, I neglected who I am.  I obeyed His direction and agreed to embrace my life in a specific order.  But wait, the idea here is not to drop our businesses and just literally stay at home.  It is just a matter of prioritizing and seeking Him first.  For the longest time, I thought I was already doing this, little did I know that I was not.  God reminded me that He is pleased when I do chores (naiyak talaga ako dito!!!!) and at the end of the day, this is what is important.  He assured me that He will handle the rest as long as I do not put on a heavy heart serving my boys.  When this happened, I told God, "Okay Lord, I am ready to not grow my business this year, I will focus on the first 3 lang muna", but knowing God's economics, baligtad talaga!! When I decided to work on what REALLY mattered, I suddenly had ideas for my business, I had inquiries that did not get mad when I answered late, people who can help started pitching in, and lastly, I still have energy to work in spite of the working at home!   Ang galing!!



To add to this, He also reminded me of the following:

1.  God made Bryan the main provider.  My responsibility is to just support him.

2.  God did not want my business to be a product of my sweat, hard work and sleepless nights.  He wants it a result of His grace and my obedience.

3.  I am a stay-at-home-wife-and-mom first not an entrepreneur, so why should I worry if I don't grow my business?

4.  Prioritizing is the key, not balance

Misis (especially those who does NEED to work), it is okay to be who you are first...These things will be added when we honor God first (Matthew 6:33)