I have been pulling my hair out trying to figure out how I can grow my hosting and training business .  Since the late quarter of 2017, I have been wanting to aim higher and dream bigger. I mean, it is just right, di 'ba? Every business owner, freelancer, entrepreneur would like to be better every year.

With this in mind, I kept on asking the Lord how.  I also nagged Him to give me wisdom, ideas and more clients.  However, God has been silent.  He asked me to focus on Him instead.  I was not convinced so I asked Him more.  He still did not answer.

I stopped asking and tried my best to focus on Him and settle on for 2018.  Then on the series of events, conferences and journaling, I realized something.  In order to be bigger on the things I want to accomplish, I need to embrace who I am first.  And who am I first?  Let me share to you what I enumerated on my journal:

1.  Christian
- salt and light
- be a disciple and discipler

2.  Wife
- support Bryan in all areas
- homemaker

3.  Mother
- Homeschool Risen
- Train and journey with Risen

4. Freelancer
- Host
- blogger
- owner of Soli Deo Events Management

5.  Daughter, a sister, a friend, church volunteer
- connect to family and a community

When I realized who I am first, I felt so bad for neglecting what God intended me to be primarily.  In many occasions, I have frowned upon working on chores (if only I could answer a client's inquiry), whined at Risen for wanting to play longer (I have an email to answer), I also thought of my time go to waste with all the cooking and cleaning I have to do (I could have been blogging instead), and the many instances I folded clothes and tidied our cabinets with a heavy heart (If only I can go to a coffee shop now and work on my laptop).  God rebuked me and told me, "Hey, I did not create you to work and grow your business.  I made you mine, Bryan's and Risen's FIRST" 

This humbled me and made me ask for forgiveness because for sometime, I neglected who I am.  I obeyed His direction and agreed to embrace my life in a specific order.  But wait, the idea here is not to drop our businesses and just literally stay at home.  It is just a matter of prioritizing and seeking Him first.  For the longest time, I thought I was already doing this, little did I know that I was not.  God reminded me that He is pleased when I do chores (naiyak talaga ako dito!!!!) and at the end of the day, this is what is important.  He assured me that He will handle the rest as long as I do not put on a heavy heart serving my boys.  When this happened, I told God, "Okay Lord, I am ready to not grow my business this year, I will focus on the first 3 lang muna", but knowing God's economics, baligtad talaga!! When I decided to work on what REALLY mattered, I suddenly had ideas for my business, I had inquiries that did not get mad when I answered late, people who can help started pitching in, and lastly, I still have energy to work in spite of the working at home!   Ang galing!!

To add to this, He also reminded me of the following:

1.  God made Bryan the main provider.  My responsibility is to just support him.

2.  God did not want my business to be a product of my sweat, hard work and sleepless nights.  He wants it a result of His grace and my obedience.

3.  I am a stay-at-home-wife-and-mom first not an entrepreneur, so why should I worry if I don't grow my business?

4.  Prioritizing is the key, not balance

Misis (especially those who does NEED to work), it is okay to be who you are first...These things will be added when we honor God first (Matthew 6:33) 


1.  Honeymoon
Yes!  One one of the joys of married life is to be able to travel, be intimate, and come home to each others arms.  Alongside your wedding planning. you have to plan where you will spend your first night, and the nights ahead.  Why?  Well IF you haven't been together as in together, I do not have to tell you why.  Pero sige, let me still give you the reasons ;) First, you will never know when the two of you can be alone and worry free again.  Second, wedding planning is stressful you gotta relax!  Third, you and your partner deserve your undivided attention.  Lastly, to celebrate God's gift of sexual intimacy.  Yes, sex is a gift from God for married people.

2.  Pregnancy
For the girls, please visit your trusted OB to know what is going on inside you.  IF you are not sexually active, make sure your doctor knows this.Just be honest with your answers and concerns.  For you and your partner naman, IF you intend to wait it our  a year to get pregnant, PLAN on how you intend it to happen.  It can't be the "bahala na" pill.  There are a variety of options and what is important here is that you agree, whether natural or scientific.  Your family planning seminar (required by the government) may have this, but, based on experience, it is still better to have a time to seat down with your OB.

3.  Leaving and cleaving
I have written a million blogs on this! haha  You can click this or this . 

4.  Finances
To tell you the truth, it was only when I got married that I started to handle my finances.  
So, just to put an edge and wisdom on this truth, I have asked a friend, Katrina G. Ley,        Licensed  Financial Advisor, Sunlife of Canada (Phils) Inc.

A. Is there an ideal amount/percentage of savings a newly wed should have? 
There is no strict figure on the amount of savings a newly wed should have because it all  boils down to the couple's Financial Goal. There should always be an open line of communication about money issues with your partner.  Talk about money and define your shared goals.  Be honest with your debts, liabilities, disclose your assets, discuss your plans for building a life together --- purchasing a home, having children, everyday expenses, education expenses, health care, investments, and retirement plans.  It is important to always talk about the steps that should be taken in order to attain your shared goals.  You should also always respect each others financial skills and never be afraid to ask for money or financial advice from experts like a financial advisor.

B. If you have 1M for the wedding, honeymoon and savings, how much should be allocated for the savings alone? 
Decide on which formula to follow for your househol.  There are several formulas like the 60-20-10-10 or the 50-30-20 rule.  Always stick with your formula.  Follow it religiously and whole heartedly.  If you have 1M, a good 20-30% should go to savings


We attended 2 conferences at the CCF Center two weeks back (one is for church leaders and the others for church goers) and funny on how my biggest take home was about marriage and family.  I guess it shows that these topics make me giddy and relationships are important to the speakers of the conferences as well.

Anyhow, let me discuss my workshop highlights here:

1.  Do not confirm any invitation, event, or appointment without asking him
It is very easy to say "yes" to invites especially if we know we are available.  However, confirming skeds may also mean overlooking our husbands calendar and authority.  The better reply is "Let me check with my husband first".  This response will also make the people around you and your husband think highly of him.  To the words of one of the married women I admire, "Wives schedule should revolve around their husbands" - Deonna Tan-Chi

2.  Answer his texts and calls
Josh McDowell would take calls from his husband and children anytime.  Be it stopping mid sentence while speaking in a thousand audience or delaying a very important meeting.  He told the IDC participants that his family is the most important people in his life so it is always a "yes" even on phone calls. Now, we know what to do ;)

3.  Drop everything when he arrives home
Pastor Peter Tan-Chi would honk and shout at the door "I am home", then his wife and kids would drop whatever they are doing and run to him.  This was their "tradition" years back and it not only showed but modeled respect to the man of the house.  I recognize that it is really a sweet gesture to welcome Bryan by the door.  And of course, I also make sure I am done bathing, there's food and the house is pleasant to come home too.

4.  Do not correct him in front of others
Our husbands are not perfect, but let us not correct them in front of others.  If there is a need to do this, let us say, the information is important, say it nicely.  Do not grill, blame, point finger, put to shame or say "ewan ko dyan", "bahala na sya", "basta ako...", and other phrases that show disrespect.  This is not only bad for his image but also for you.  Can you imagine a child saying this to his parent?  No right?  Then no wife should also tell this to her husband.

5.  Yield to his decision
There are times I do not agree with Bryan but I prayerfully support and submit.  If his decisions fails, I encourage him.  Our husbands lead and IF they will be wrong, hopefully they will learn from this.  Let us not take this away from our husbands.  Discuss your side and pray that he will make the right decisions for your family.  What I learned recently was when I do not agree, I do not nag him but I go to God in prayer.  I tell Him that to speak to Bryan to "change his mind".  And just in case Bryan doesn't, I am in full confidence that God wants it that way.  And when Bryan suddenly changes his mind, I do not "Sabi sa yo eh", instead, it encourages me to pray more for my husband because I know God talks to him and my hubby listens.  When we allow our husbands to decide and be accountable, they are able to see their strength and weaknesses too.  In this way, they become better decision makers.  Let them be, Misis.  Let them lead.

A part of our role is to show respect to our husbands.  God commanded us to do this because He knows that this will make our marriage work.  Regardless of our feelings and longing for our husband's affection, we are to show respect.  I pray that you will decide to be on your husband's side always.


I first talked about settling at home here. I hope you had a grand time sorting and organizing.  Let me continue with my helpful list :)

3.  Wake up early and sleep on time
I try my very best to wake at 4:30 at be in bed at 8:30. To add to this, I also do NOT check my            phone during these times.  My goal is to get up and head to work and or sleep asap.  We all know what happens when we have our phones agad!  ;)

4.  End house work at a certain time
Since the work at home never ends, you have to end it yourself.  Let me share to you the sked that I follow.  The goal is to stop house work at 10:00 am kahit may natira pa.

4:30 - wake up, prep breakfast, sweep and mop(kitchen/living room areas), load clothes at washing machine

5:30 - coffee with Bryan, Devotions

6:15 - Bryan leaves for work, continue with Devotions, Journalling, Planner-ing ;)

7:00 - Risen wakes up, I continue with my devotions while Risen bikes or plays, clean bedrooms


10:15 - Hello Social Media and freelancing work :)

11:30 - lunch, screen/play time for Risen while I read or work

2:30 - Homeschooling time

4:30 - Dishes, housework, prep dinner

5:15 - Bryan arrives, dinner, quality time with Bryan, load clothes in washing machine

8:30 - sleep

5.  Know what to let go then drop it
I am first a christian, wife, mom, freelancer then church volunteer.  This is clear but what made this list more specific was when I (actually Bryan's idea) listed down the responsibilities that go under it.  When I itemized it, I was put to shame when I realized I should not be complaining on my housework because I am a wife and mom first.  I should not also rant when I can't work on my laptop, because again, I am a homemaker first.  Since my freelancing and ministry work comes last, I should work on it last too :)  To add, I should be an example to Risen on how I react to chores.  Also, I should be excited to God's whisper "I am pleased" when I work around the house with a smile.

My tip?  Work on your FIRSTS.  Drop the others and you will see on how God will arrange your time when you honor him and His priorities first.

6.  Remember that it starts from your home
I believe that good managers start from the home first. If you can't manage your household, your time, your finances, how can you assure your clients, employees, friends that you can help them out?

To summarize, know who you are, Misis :)  When you realize and accept who you are first, the laundry, dishes, and cleaning gets done with a smile.


In my previous blog, I shared that we were only able to settle to 2018 mid January.  It was a rough take off , however, we are just really happy to finally made it to the new year kahit late.  Before I give you a run down of the things we did to arrive on our 2018, let me give you some signs of a person who has not moved into 2018 yet.  Or better yet, an indication of a home that has yet to  adopt in to a steady phase.  If you nod on my every point (or at least half), you likely need tips on how to settle too.

1.  you sleep tired and you wake up tired
2.  you do the same amount and length of chores repeatedly, e.v.e.r.y d.a.y!!
3.  you can't find your comb, the new ketchup you bought, and the tiny gun of your son's robot
4.  you have clutters, actually no, you have many clutters
5.  you are overwhelmed with chores that you do not know where to begin
6.  you find your home, 24 hours, chaotic
7.  lastly, laging mainit ulo mo

How did I know?  This all happened to me for 2 weeks  ;)

Okay, enough of the dump, let us now handle this. Ready?  First step...

Organize your home.  Wait, do not get scared.  Once you know the ins and outs of your house, it would solve 50 percent of your problem.  Promise!  Do not worry, I will not leave you with this big word, I will walk with you through it.  Okay, so how do we organize?

1.  Throw, give and sell the following:
- Double or triple items
- clothes, bags, and shoes that do not fit and you don't wear

Yes, I know this will be HARD.  So may isa pa akong tip.  What you do is bag all these things first.  Do not give or sell them yet.  Just put them in a bag or box.  After a few months, you would realize you can live without them.  By this time, it would be easier to let go.
Good luck!  You can do it, Misis!

I gave my big bag of clutter to someone who has a big family.  I did not bother selling them kasi na stress pa ko dun.  But, if you want to earn from your clutter, go ahead and plan a garage sale.  If not, pamigay mo na lahat para no worries at all.

2.  Organize your home.  In short, pagsama samahin ang pare pareho.
This is still connected with my first tip.  After you have decided what to keep and what not to keep, plan out the things inside your home.  An organized home is equivalent to having a system.  Dapat may sistema misis.  Here are my examples:

1.  I only have 3 sets of bed sheets, blanket and punda.  All this are packed in one set, so isang kuhanan lang.  na ka group na sila.

2.  Risen's toys can't be played at the same time.  Naka group din sila.  Two at a time lang pwedeng ilabas.  When he is done playing with 2 sets and he wants to play with another set, he has to return the toys he is playing with, then saka lang ilalabas yung iba.

3.  I love cooking and spices.  Lahat din nasa isang lalagyan with visible expiration dates. Also, I make sure nasa maayos na lalagyan, not in plastics. Plastics can be messy.  Invest in clear bottles with lables and lalagayan.

4.  The biggest throw I did was with my clothes.  Ang sarap ng konti ang damit.  Yes, that is true for me :)  I have less choices so less time in figuring out what to wear.  I am actually leaning toward having a uniform and same set of clothes.

5.  Lastly, I made it a rule, that if it has no place in our home, it is considered a clutter.  So if nakatago lang sya with no purpose, I give it away.

Can you imagine your personal bag having  a screw driver, sponge, and used socks?  Hindi di ba?  I am sure when you see those in your bag, you would leave it somewhere or throw it away.  The same thing with your house.  You have got to let go!

IF you still think you are not ready, try one department first.  It will be fun and worth it, I promise! :)


I have finally landed on the year 2018!!

The big blow that welcomed us this year was when we decided to let our helper go because she had to drink maintenance meds for high blood (she is only 35).  It was hard for us to see her sick, and I know it will be difficult for everyone if there is another being we need to look after to.  And so yes, we had to send her home.  I felt the impact of this at the start of the year.  We needed to reorganize the house, donate and throw things, be familiar with the "ins and outs" of our home and basically to reshuffle chores. We also had to look into our schedule and routine and figure out how me and Bryan will juggle everything again.  Whew!!!  After a month, I think we have finally settled.

This chaos means too that I have figured out when and how to write.  After a month, I was able to finally open my laptop and share my thoughts again.  Finally!!  And wait,  since I I want to step a notch personal goals this year, I have decided to vlog once in a while.  Yes. sometimes lang because I do not want to get overwhelmed ;)

Seriously now, how are you and the new year? Have you arrived as well?  If you have not, do not hurry.  Take your time and figure out the following:

1.  What is holding you back?
For me, it was the countless things I have to fix and decide upon (e.g to get a new helper or not), and my attitude toward our new normal.  It was the peak of my my hosting gigs and events when our helper got sick.  Our schedule was so crazy!  We only go home to pack and leave again.  I got so stressed with all the chores that I did not know where to begin. One day, I just decided to get it over with and start moving!!

2.  What are the things you need to act upon and drop?
I dropped blogging to focus on reorganizing our home, our schedule, Risen and Bryan.  Then piece by piece, I slowly went back to my dream daily routine.  My tip is to not be afraid to pause or stop. Rebooting is necessary.

3.  Write the things you have to do 
A list can be overwhelming but at least you know what you are facing.  I am a planner person so I write things down.  From my weekly menu, groceries, stuff to do today, this weekend and next month, etc.  A ticked off list can make you feel accomplished, go make one.

4.  Remember that certainty is not the goal
If you are aiming for assurance that all will be well this year, then we have a problem.  One of the things that made me "ready" for 2018 is the peace that though the beginning is rough, God watches over our little family.

My prayer is that you will be ready to face the new year not because you are confident, strong, knowledgeable of the things ahead, but because you have a God that will walk you through the bad and the good days.  Yes, I have finally landed on my 2018, but that's it.  I am waiting on where and how God will take our little family.  I hope you too, will arrive soon.  Happy new year!!!


1.  Do I always give a "yes" when my husband asks for sex?

2.  Do I know my husband's love language?  Do I work on this?

3. Am I (Are we) following God's blueprint for marriage?

4.  Does it show in my routine that my husband is my priority?
     (Or is it my work or kids?)

6.  Am I surrounded by people who love their marriage 
    and their husbands?


1.  Evaluate yourself - No blaming, no judging, just see on how you are as a wife/husband.   I suggest you do this when you are not emotional.  Write down the things that you are good at and bad at.  It would help if you could also consider the things that your husband/wife complains about you.  You do not have to show the list to him/her.  Just take time to be honest and write down the attitude or character you have been displaying lately. Done?  Let us jump to number 2 because this is connected :)

2.  Continue or start being a good wife or a husband - I am sure you have "excuses" for the "negative things" you have been doing lately.  Maybe you thought of "sya din naman" (my spouse does the same), or you are tired, or you have been patient for the longest time...The thing is you can't control your partner but you have power over yours.  My suggestion? since your marriage is falling apart, be the better person.  He/she does not kiss when he says "bye"?  Then do it.  He/she does has no time for you?  Then initiate time together.  Avoid minding his/her department.  Just mind yours - your being a wife or husband.  Now, go back to your list (number 1) and work on the things you are "bad at".  Do this without any expectations that your wife/husband will improve as well.  Just do your part.

3.  Talk to couples who mirror a lovely marriage - The good news is, we still have couples whose marriages are warm, inspiring and a joy to look at to.  You do not have to look far.  It could be your friend, cousin, or even the Ninong and Ninang you got when you married.  The thing is, surround yourself with couples who will encourage you to pursue your spouse and your marriage.  When  you have troubles, do not go to a group whose marriage is breaking apart as well.

4.  Go back to the basics of love, marriage and commitment  - Review the foundation of marriage:  leave and cleave, love and respect...These are vital in marriages that couples often forget.  Also, I would suggest that you list down your priorities and see if you are actually doing them.  Also, do not tag "family" as one priority, it should be 1. husband 2. child/children (in the order that you want).  They should be branded separately so we can really see where we are. 

5.  Realize that you need Jesus - You only do not need him on your wedding day.  You need Him daily on your marriage.  You only do not need the pre-marital counselling that was required by your church, parish, priest or pastor.  You need it (more) after you get married.  

If you have done number 5, and you are sure that you accepted Jesus in your life and in your marriage but your marriage is still sinking, let me add 5 more numbers :)

1. Join a discipleship group for couples
2. Check your priorities (again). Drop what has to be dropped.
3. Have devotions with your husband/wife at least once a week
4. Evaluate your physical situation at home (do you have privacy for sex?, is your house a good sight to come home to?, do you have yummy food?, is your child ruling your house?, etc)
5. Treat once a week date nights like a trip to the Emergency room

This suggestions does not cover women/men who suffer physical, verbal or sexual abuse from their spouses.


Riiinnnggggsss! :)

I have been stalking LITTLE WHITE POUCH for like three months now and I must admit that I became a fan.  I do not really like the common jewelry pieces you see on stalls (actually, I am more interested with statement accessories), that's why, it was a joy checking their IG feed because they have a variety to choose from.  Their taste is unique yet classy. It is not extremely "too artistic" nor "super common".  In short, I love them and I am sure you would appreciate them too!!

Let me share to you a few of their products (Engagement rings to be exact) according to the categories I picked.  This is just too exciting!!!

PS. The descriptions in blue and the captions were composed by Little White Pouch 

1. An artist (painter, graphic designer, theater actor)

Artists usually want one of a kind engagement rings. Rings that would reflect their personality and style.

Dark Gray Spinel set in 14 karat yellow gold textured band

Dark Gray Spinel set in 14 karat yellow gold textured band

Oval shaped Salt and pepper diamond with Sapphire stones pave on band
2. A woman who loves the water and the mountains:

I chose rings that reflect the color of nature. My favorite of the three would be the Opal because of its color play that reflects the color of the water and skies. Oh and it's part water! :) 

3.30 carat Zambian Emerald set in 14 karat bezel set ring. Reflects the color of Mountains.

Oval Shaped Opal set in 14 karat Rose Gold.
Color play of  Opal reflects the color of the skies, the water and the trees.

 3.  A woman who loves and knowledgable with jewels/diamonds/gold

This 1.5 carat, I color Diamond set in a 14 karat thin band.
This setting highlights the beauty and sparkle of the diamond.

4. A classic lady

1.14 carat Diamond set in 14 karat tiffany setting inspired ring. The bride's ring is a solitaire setting that uses 2 colors of gold. White gold prongs to highlight and brighten the diamond & a classic knife edge yellow gold band.

0.76 carat H color diamond set in 14 karat gold Cathedral ring.
Cathedral setting is an elegant and classic design that highlights the beauty of the stone

0.76 carat H color diamond set in 14 karat gold Cathedral ring.
Cathedral setting is an elegant and classic design that highlights the beauty of the stone.

1.14 carat Diamond set in 14 karat tiffany setting inspired ring. The bride's ring is a solitaire setting that uses 2 colors of gold. White gold prongs to highlight and brighten the diamond & a classic knife edge yellow gold band

5. Something timeless and can be passed from one generation to the next 

Rose cuts are antique cut diamonds that flourished in the 1500’s and were eventually replaced by the Brilliant cut in the 1900’s. And its making its comeback. This type of diamond is a very unique cut that gives off a softer brilliance compared to brilliant cut diamonds.  I think I chose this ring for the "timeless category" because it's proving to stand the test of time.


5. A woman who wants it perfectly matched with their wedding bands

Our client had her engagement ring reset to this hammered textured band 
    to resemble the hammered wedding bands that we made for them.

Photos of the hammered wedding bands

7. Sporty woman

The owner of this ring is a sporty girl who wanted something she can wear during her activities.
 It's won't be a hindrance to her movements because of its thin band and bezel set tourmaline stone.
Oh and that knot detail gives a hint/feel of "movement".

This Princess cut engagement ring is also a very simple ring that sporty girls can wear anywhere, anytime.
The small stone, flushed into the ring, will definitely stay secure whatever the wearer chooses to do.

7. Purity Ring
This Dainty Ruby ring can be considered as a purity/promise ring because
 the Ruby's blood red color that symbolizes love.

This Heart shaped Diamond set in 14 karat gold can represent a promise to wait for true love.

Pearl ring that does not look "pang tita" 

This is a medium sized mikimoto pearl flanked in small diamonds, set in 14 karat white gold.
A piece that can be worn everyday.

Let me know your favorite! :)


Since I have been telling you about the scheduled rest we did for 3 days and 2 nights, let me share this to you in detail so you can have an idea on your next sabbatical trip :)

Me and Bryan have been looking for a place that is (1) within our budget (2) a short drive from Carmona (3)  a place that is not crowded (4) and has amenities that Risen can enjoy too.  We have been googling up until we stumbled upon Club Balai Isabel and the 4 points we have been eyeing for came in perfectly.  (1) It was on 50% off at Agoda (we paid 6700 for 2 nights)  (2) It was just like an hour away from Carmona (Talisay, Batangas - Exit at Tanauan via Star Toll) (3)  They are still free on a weekday - weekdays mean less people (4)  They have 3 pools and large spaces for our 4 year old to explore.

After 4 checks, we booked and drove to Club Balai Isabel :)

We were there early so we had to wait by the pool before we can check-in.  It was totally cool because we were allowed to use the pool and the other amenities.  Before 2pm we were given a room (we booked an Executive room).  They were also gracious for the request of transfer (from 3rd to 2nd floor) that we made.

The sweetness of doing nothing (la dolce far niente) finally began after we dropped our bags in the cabinets.  It was literally eat, swim, bed, then repeat for us.  I think it was the "less thinking and no planning" for three days that we enjoyed the most.  Oh wait, we used naman pala our brains when we ordered food! haha  I am posting the menu and prices here because I know these details are valuable for a Mrs. like us.

Seriously now, what I love about this 3 days 2 nights near get away was able to catch up with myself.  You see, when a wife or mom gets tired, the tendency is to imagine what life was like before.  Now, no regrets here, but I just have to admit that I miss being spontaneous, staying out of the city, practicing my stroke (water baby!!!), reading books while having Coke, staying under the sun, and not thinking of anything  "adult like" was sooooo relaxing!!! I was not #adulting for 3 days! Woohoooo.  Sounds selfish? Maybe. But it is so true.  I so miss myself and that 3 day 2 night stay was a very good way to get back to the groove of being a full time wife and mom.  I was really recharged.  It was like I can peel 10 kilos of Chayote with a smile!  haha

Now, would I recommend Club Balai Isabel on your next trip? YES! but only of you can only get for half the price.  Booking it for 6,700 a night is quite pricey of you ask me.  I have little issues with cleanliness, lack of towels in the pool area, no toothbrush and toothpaste (has to be requested), and late opening of pool areas (8 am) ;)

Be sure to check Agoda before booking!  And of course, be sure to rest and enjoy the sweetness of not doing anything!


And oh, I made a video to sum up our trip!  This is my first time so please be appreciative haha