12 THINGS TO REMIND ZE PARENTALS DURING YOUR WEDDING ;)

Hello po! :)

First, let me congratulate you for raising responsible individuals who would like to be independent and be responsible for someone.  I know that your are happy for them, more so, excited for the wedding day!! However, I can also understand on how this day can be stressful and confusing at the same time.  Do not worry amazing parents, I got you! I will try to explain how a wedding usually works at this time.


1. We now have coordinators.  That means  you won't be in-charge of anything. That is good news , right?  Your son/daughter  was given assignments that they would need to turn over before to the wedding . All you need to do is seize the moment of your child's celebration.

2.  The church is usually very strict regarding time.  Due to this, we need to follow the schedule set by the coordinators.  If a Ninang, an entourage, relative will be late, we will still start without them.  We can't wait for them or ask them to march for picture taking purposes.  Please  help remind your children to remind your amiga to expect traffic and come early..

3.  Speaking of schedule, we will follow a timeline from waking up to the end of the program. This will be done on the dot  in order to achieve an organized wedding.  Please follow the time set for hair and make-up, breakfast, dressing up, etc.  This will be all be reminded by the coordinator. I hope that you will try to understand that the make-up artists, photographers, videographers and other suppliers do not want to do their job swiftly.  They need time to produce expected and excellent results.

4.  There will be a lot of people coming in and out of the hotel room during the preparation   Please secure your belongings and your sets of jewelries :)  The suppliers will not be liable for any loss that will happen.

5.  Do not forget to ask your son or daughter on how the processional will go. You may usually walk with him/her from the start or meet them at the middle of the aisle.

6.  If you are not comfortable  to walk with your spouse during the march, you may choose to hold the bouquet with two hands as to not be forced to hold his/her hand.  You may also request that you sit beside your balae during the reception.  Also, if you will be asked to deliver a speech, you may do this alone or right after your partner.

7.  The pictorial line up after the ceremony is final.  If you want additional group photos, this can be done during the reception.  Regarding the program and seating arrangement, this was also agreed and approved by your son/daughter during the planning stage . If you have questions or concerns about this, you may ask the coordinators.  However, please do not feel bad if they will reply with a "no".  They have the best intentions and I am sure they just want the program to be as smooth as possible.

8.  There might be things that has to be paid for during the event.  Since the couple is busy with the celebration, this may be asked from you.  Please prepare a small amount of cash for emergency purposes.

9.  There is always a gap (about 1 hour) between the ceremony and reception.  This is happening because 1.  the couple is still having their pictures taken 2.  The couple is having their re-touch 3.  The couple is eating 4.  The sound system might need time for adjustment (if one venue for ceremony and reception) 5.  guests are being seated on their tables.  During this time, you may maximize the use the photo-booth, eat pica-pica, mingle to your guests, and have your pictures taken using your personal phones or cameras.  This is normal and I am sure your guests have also anticipated this gap.  

10.  Prepare a speech. Your son and daughter will most likely ask you to say something at the end of the reception.  When this happens, you need to prepare for (a) an advice for the newly weds (b) an appreciation for those who celebrated with you and lastly (c) a warm welcome to your son or daughter-in-law.  I would recommend that you prepare this in days before the wedding.  It does not matter if it is in Filipino or English as long as it will not start with "Hindi ko alam sasabihin ko" , "sabi ko wag nyo na akong tawagin"or "I did not prepare anything".  This is an important part of the program.  To add, when you are ready for your speech, you will appear more confident, there will be less nervousness and you will end up saying what you really want to say.  You can do this!  

11. Bring a small amount of food, emergency medicine, tissue and water. Due to heat, exhaustion is very possible.  And since we want to avoid feeling sick, kindly bring these essentials.

12.  Lastly, enjoy.  I have been hosting weddings for quite some time now and let me tell you that I have never been to a perfect wedding and reception.  There will always be that small incidents.  However, please trust the suppliers that they mean no harm and the would also want the very best wedding celebration for your child.  Just smile, take a lot of mental notes and relish every moment because it will all come by so fast. Dance a little, smile a lot, and celebrate to the max!  




There :)  I hope that this list would help you be merry on your child's big day!  Do you think I have forgotten some tips?  If yes, feels free to comment below.  If none, what is your favorite from the list I have made?