WHEN YOUR FIANCE DOES NOT WANT TO LEAVE AND CLEAVE

Being married is work and it becomes more challenging when you live with your in-laws.  I know that the parents of your partner is kind hearted, generous and loving, but trust me, the dynamics will not be as stable as the months go by

Since you clicked this blog post, you are probably in this situation and have been seeing the possible effects on your marriage.  If this is beginning to be a problem, let me encourage you that there is hope and a solution.  

So, what do we do next?

IF YOUR FIANCE’ SAYS “NO, PERIOD"
·         If you are both Bible believing and followers of Jesus, I guess the discussion should be lighter.  You or a counselor should help your fiancĂ© see and obey what Jesus said in the Bible.  Now, IF he still wants to stay in his parents or your house after you get married, this is one major concern.  This is alarming, because as a spiritual leader, your man should be able to see that this is not an option, it is a command.  It would be a poor decision if you would start your marriage refusing to comply God’s blueprint.

IF YOUR FIANCE SAYS "WE NEED TO SAVE UP FIRST"
·         Know your priorities and save up now.  IF you are planning to have a grand wedding, I suggest look into the your real and right priority.  Though it may be true that weddings only happen once in a lifetime, remember too that you will only be married once and one of the foundations of a blissful union is to leave and cleave.

      IF YOUR FIANCE SAYS "MY PARENTS NEED ME"
      Consider inviting his parents over your home instead of living with them.  Or live close by.

     IF YOUR FIANCE SAYS "MONEY THAT GOES TO RENT IS A WASTE"
     This may not be all true.  The money that goes to rent also pays for the following:
     1.  Your privacy and intimacy ANYWHERE in your rented house
     2.  Your say on how you want your home to look like
     3.  Your choice on what you want to eat and not eat
     4.  Your husband's opportunity to lead and your opportunity to serve 
     5.  Your decision of whom to invite over and what time to leave and go home 
     6.  Your call on how to discipline your child (if any)


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      IF YOU ARE THINKING YOUR SPOUSE TO BE IS RIGHT


      Let me  encourage you to leave and cleave because God wants you to enjoy His gift of marriage. Not leaving and cleaving is only enjoying half of what marriage is like; which can be compared to going to a theme park without an unlimited pass.  Make the most out of your marriage and follow God's design. Trust Him because He wants the best for your marriage.  You may want to write down the advantages and disadvantages so you can clearly see.