CHOOSE WE BEFORE ME

While I was randomly scrolling my FB wall, I saw this article entitled Marriage Isn’t About Your Happiness .  Obviously, it caught my attention so I read right away.

This particular paragraph got me... "We live in a world that DESPISES the sacrificial side of marriage and tries to explain it away. They teach us to strive for power, control and the upper hand in a relationship. They tell us to do what feels right, and not to tolerate anything less. They fool us to thinking that love is about doing what makes us happy. And the second we feel less than happy, they encourage us to bail…to abandon ship…and to stop investing…to give up on love."

One of the reasons we say "yes" to a lifetime is because the person makes us happy.  What happens is, we expect that this positivity to go on for the rest of our lives. Then, if our marriage or our partner suddenly does not live to our standards, we give up.  Aka the line famous line... "Hindi na ako masaya" (I am not happy anymore).

The truth is, IF we focus on OUR happiness, we will be doomed. Those who are intending to get married should remember that their "happiness" will be robbed off many times once they tie the knot.  They should be ready to be more giving, sacrificial and to always things his partner above self.

And the other hard truth? It is impossible to sacrifice this much again and again when our goal is to please our spouse.  You see, our partners will disappoint us in ways you can't even imagine.  So the trick here is look at the Creator of marriage and to love like how Christ loved us. He is the ultimate source of love and forgiveness.  You see, couples who forgive does not end in divorce.
"We love because he first loved us" 1 John 4:19

The person who makes you happy now will be the same person who will upset you. And when everything gets so messy, it will be very easy to "choose yourself" before marriage or your spouse. My unsolicited advice? Be ready to NOT think about your happiness when you get married.  Not even the 50-50 mindset.  Rather, think of it that marriage is recommitting yourself to Him, as you align yourself with His will in your married life and also, giving yourself (and your happiness) to your spouse, without expecting anything in return.

Now wait, please do not think that married life can't be fun at all.  Marriage can be great if you married the person who is ready to also lose his happiness for yours.  When two selfless people 
marry, there will be much love, joy, contentment and romance from day 1 to forever.





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