Showing posts with label everything in between. Show all posts
Showing posts with label everything in between. Show all posts


I have been pulling my hair out trying to figure out how I can grow my hosting and training business .  Since the late quarter of 2017, I have been wanting to aim higher and dream bigger. I mean, it is just right, di 'ba? Every business owner, freelancer, entrepreneur would like to be better every year.

With this in mind, I kept on asking the Lord how.  I also nagged Him to give me wisdom, ideas and more clients.  However, God has been silent.  He asked me to focus on Him instead.  I was not convinced so I asked Him more.  He still did not answer.

I stopped asking and tried my best to focus on Him and settle on for 2018.  Then on the series of events, conferences and journaling, I realized something.  In order to be bigger on the things I want to accomplish, I need to embrace who I am first.  And who am I first?  Let me share to you what I enumerated on my journal:

1.  Christian
- salt and light
- be a disciple and discipler

2.  Wife
- support Bryan in all areas
- homemaker

3.  Mother
- Homeschool Risen
- Train and journey with Risen

4. Freelancer
- Host
- blogger
- owner of Soli Deo Events Management

5.  Daughter, a sister, a friend, church volunteer
- connect to family and a community

When I realized who I am first, I felt so bad for neglecting what God intended me to be primarily.  In many occasions, I have frowned upon working on chores (if only I could answer a client's inquiry), whined at Risen for wanting to play longer (I have an email to answer), I also thought of my time go to waste with all the cooking and cleaning I have to do (I could have been blogging instead), and the many instances I folded clothes and tidied our cabinets with a heavy heart (If only I can go to a coffee shop now and work on my laptop).  God rebuked me and told me, "Hey, I did not create you to work and grow your business.  I made you mine, Bryan's and Risen's FIRST" 

This humbled me and made me ask for forgiveness because for sometime, I neglected who I am.  I obeyed His direction and agreed to embrace my life in a specific order.  But wait, the idea here is not to drop our businesses and just literally stay at home.  It is just a matter of prioritizing and seeking Him first.  For the longest time, I thought I was already doing this, little did I know that I was not.  God reminded me that He is pleased when I do chores (naiyak talaga ako dito!!!!) and at the end of the day, this is what is important.  He assured me that He will handle the rest as long as I do not put on a heavy heart serving my boys.  When this happened, I told God, "Okay Lord, I am ready to not grow my business this year, I will focus on the first 3 lang muna", but knowing God's economics, baligtad talaga!! When I decided to work on what REALLY mattered, I suddenly had ideas for my business, I had inquiries that did not get mad when I answered late, people who can help started pitching in, and lastly, I still have energy to work in spite of the working at home!   Ang galing!!

To add to this, He also reminded me of the following:

1.  God made Bryan the main provider.  My responsibility is to just support him.

2.  God did not want my business to be a product of my sweat, hard work and sleepless nights.  He wants it a result of His grace and my obedience.

3.  I am a stay-at-home-wife-and-mom first not an entrepreneur, so why should I worry if I don't grow my business?

4.  Prioritizing is the key, not balance

Misis (especially those who does NEED to work), it is okay to be who you are first...These things will be added when we honor God first (Matthew 6:33) 


I first talked about settling at home here. I hope you had a grand time sorting and organizing.  Let me continue with my helpful list :)

3.  Wake up early and sleep on time
I try my very best to wake at 4:30 at be in bed at 8:30. To add to this, I also do NOT check my            phone during these times.  My goal is to get up and head to work and or sleep asap.  We all know what happens when we have our phones agad!  ;)

4.  End house work at a certain time
Since the work at home never ends, you have to end it yourself.  Let me share to you the sked that I follow.  The goal is to stop house work at 10:00 am kahit may natira pa.

4:30 - wake up, prep breakfast, sweep and mop(kitchen/living room areas), load clothes at washing machine

5:30 - coffee with Bryan, Devotions

6:15 - Bryan leaves for work, continue with Devotions, Journalling, Planner-ing ;)

7:00 - Risen wakes up, I continue with my devotions while Risen bikes or plays, clean bedrooms


10:15 - Hello Social Media and freelancing work :)

11:30 - lunch, screen/play time for Risen while I read or work

2:30 - Homeschooling time

4:30 - Dishes, housework, prep dinner

5:15 - Bryan arrives, dinner, quality time with Bryan, load clothes in washing machine

8:30 - sleep

5.  Know what to let go then drop it
I am first a christian, wife, mom, freelancer then church volunteer.  This is clear but what made this list more specific was when I (actually Bryan's idea) listed down the responsibilities that go under it.  When I itemized it, I was put to shame when I realized I should not be complaining on my housework because I am a wife and mom first.  I should not also rant when I can't work on my laptop, because again, I am a homemaker first.  Since my freelancing and ministry work comes last, I should work on it last too :)  To add, I should be an example to Risen on how I react to chores.  Also, I should be excited to God's whisper "I am pleased" when I work around the house with a smile.

My tip?  Work on your FIRSTS.  Drop the others and you will see on how God will arrange your time when you honor him and His priorities first.

6.  Remember that it starts from your home
I believe that good managers start from the home first. If you can't manage your household, your time, your finances, how can you assure your clients, employees, friends that you can help them out?

To summarize, know who you are, Misis :)  When you realize and accept who you are first, the laundry, dishes, and cleaning gets done with a smile.


In my previous blog, I shared that we were only able to settle to 2018 mid January.  It was a rough take off , however, we are just really happy to finally made it to the new year kahit late.  Before I give you a run down of the things we did to arrive on our 2018, let me give you some signs of a person who has not moved into 2018 yet.  Or better yet, an indication of a home that has yet to  adopt in to a steady phase.  If you nod on my every point (or at least half), you likely need tips on how to settle too.

1.  you sleep tired and you wake up tired
2.  you do the same amount and length of chores repeatedly, e.v.e.r.y d.a.y!!
3.  you can't find your comb, the new ketchup you bought, and the tiny gun of your son's robot
4.  you have clutters, actually no, you have many clutters
5.  you are overwhelmed with chores that you do not know where to begin
6.  you find your home, 24 hours, chaotic
7.  lastly, laging mainit ulo mo

How did I know?  This all happened to me for 2 weeks  ;)

Okay, enough of the dump, let us now handle this. Ready?  First step...

Organize your home.  Wait, do not get scared.  Once you know the ins and outs of your house, it would solve 50 percent of your problem.  Promise!  Do not worry, I will not leave you with this big word, I will walk with you through it.  Okay, so how do we organize?

1.  Throw, give and sell the following:
- Double or triple items
- clothes, bags, and shoes that do not fit and you don't wear

Yes, I know this will be HARD.  So may isa pa akong tip.  What you do is bag all these things first.  Do not give or sell them yet.  Just put them in a bag or box.  After a few months, you would realize you can live without them.  By this time, it would be easier to let go.
Good luck!  You can do it, Misis!

I gave my big bag of clutter to someone who has a big family.  I did not bother selling them kasi na stress pa ko dun.  But, if you want to earn from your clutter, go ahead and plan a garage sale.  If not, pamigay mo na lahat para no worries at all.

2.  Organize your home.  In short, pagsama samahin ang pare pareho.
This is still connected with my first tip.  After you have decided what to keep and what not to keep, plan out the things inside your home.  An organized home is equivalent to having a system.  Dapat may sistema misis.  Here are my examples:

1.  I only have 3 sets of bed sheets, blanket and punda.  All this are packed in one set, so isang kuhanan lang.  na ka group na sila.

2.  Risen's toys can't be played at the same time.  Naka group din sila.  Two at a time lang pwedeng ilabas.  When he is done playing with 2 sets and he wants to play with another set, he has to return the toys he is playing with, then saka lang ilalabas yung iba.

3.  I love cooking and spices.  Lahat din nasa isang lalagyan with visible expiration dates. Also, I make sure nasa maayos na lalagyan, not in plastics. Plastics can be messy.  Invest in clear bottles with lables and lalagayan.

4.  The biggest throw I did was with my clothes.  Ang sarap ng konti ang damit.  Yes, that is true for me :)  I have less choices so less time in figuring out what to wear.  I am actually leaning toward having a uniform and same set of clothes.

5.  Lastly, I made it a rule, that if it has no place in our home, it is considered a clutter.  So if nakatago lang sya with no purpose, I give it away.

Can you imagine your personal bag having  a screw driver, sponge, and used socks?  Hindi di ba?  I am sure when you see those in your bag, you would leave it somewhere or throw it away.  The same thing with your house.  You have got to let go!

IF you still think you are not ready, try one department first.  It will be fun and worth it, I promise! :)


I have finally landed on the year 2018!!

The big blow that welcomed us this year was when we decided to let our helper go because she had to drink maintenance meds for high blood (she is only 35).  It was hard for us to see her sick, and I know it will be difficult for everyone if there is another being we need to look after to.  And so yes, we had to send her home.  I felt the impact of this at the start of the year.  We needed to reorganize the house, donate and throw things, be familiar with the "ins and outs" of our home and basically to reshuffle chores. We also had to look into our schedule and routine and figure out how me and Bryan will juggle everything again.  Whew!!!  After a month, I think we have finally settled.

This chaos means too that I have figured out when and how to write.  After a month, I was able to finally open my laptop and share my thoughts again.  Finally!!  And wait,  since I I want to step a notch personal goals this year, I have decided to vlog once in a while.  Yes. sometimes lang because I do not want to get overwhelmed ;)

Seriously now, how are you and the new year? Have you arrived as well?  If you have not, do not hurry.  Take your time and figure out the following:

1.  What is holding you back?
For me, it was the countless things I have to fix and decide upon (e.g to get a new helper or not), and my attitude toward our new normal.  It was the peak of my my hosting gigs and events when our helper got sick.  Our schedule was so crazy!  We only go home to pack and leave again.  I got so stressed with all the chores that I did not know where to begin. One day, I just decided to get it over with and start moving!!

2.  What are the things you need to act upon and drop?
I dropped blogging to focus on reorganizing our home, our schedule, Risen and Bryan.  Then piece by piece, I slowly went back to my dream daily routine.  My tip is to not be afraid to pause or stop. Rebooting is necessary.

3.  Write the things you have to do 
A list can be overwhelming but at least you know what you are facing.  I am a planner person so I write things down.  From my weekly menu, groceries, stuff to do today, this weekend and next month, etc.  A ticked off list can make you feel accomplished, go make one.

4.  Remember that certainty is not the goal
If you are aiming for assurance that all will be well this year, then we have a problem.  One of the things that made me "ready" for 2018 is the peace that though the beginning is rough, God watches over our little family.

My prayer is that you will be ready to face the new year not because you are confident, strong, knowledgeable of the things ahead, but because you have a God that will walk you through the bad and the good days.  Yes, I have finally landed on my 2018, but that's it.  I am waiting on where and how God will take our little family.  I hope you too, will arrive soon.  Happy new year!!!


Since I have been telling you about the scheduled rest we did for 3 days and 2 nights, let me share this to you in detail so you can have an idea on your next sabbatical trip :)

Me and Bryan have been looking for a place that is (1) within our budget (2) a short drive from Carmona (3)  a place that is not crowded (4) and has amenities that Risen can enjoy too.  We have been googling up until we stumbled upon Club Balai Isabel and the 4 points we have been eyeing for came in perfectly.  (1) It was on 50% off at Agoda (we paid 6700 for 2 nights)  (2) It was just like an hour away from Carmona (Talisay, Batangas - Exit at Tanauan via Star Toll) (3)  They are still free on a weekday - weekdays mean less people (4)  They have 3 pools and large spaces for our 4 year old to explore.

After 4 checks, we booked and drove to Club Balai Isabel :)

We were there early so we had to wait by the pool before we can check-in.  It was totally cool because we were allowed to use the pool and the other amenities.  Before 2pm we were given a room (we booked an Executive room).  They were also gracious for the request of transfer (from 3rd to 2nd floor) that we made.

The sweetness of doing nothing (la dolce far niente) finally began after we dropped our bags in the cabinets.  It was literally eat, swim, bed, then repeat for us.  I think it was the "less thinking and no planning" for three days that we enjoyed the most.  Oh wait, we used naman pala our brains when we ordered food! haha  I am posting the menu and prices here because I know these details are valuable for a Mrs. like us.

Seriously now, what I love about this 3 days 2 nights near get away was able to catch up with myself.  You see, when a wife or mom gets tired, the tendency is to imagine what life was like before.  Now, no regrets here, but I just have to admit that I miss being spontaneous, staying out of the city, practicing my stroke (water baby!!!), reading books while having Coke, staying under the sun, and not thinking of anything  "adult like" was sooooo relaxing!!! I was not #adulting for 3 days! Woohoooo.  Sounds selfish? Maybe. But it is so true.  I so miss myself and that 3 day 2 night stay was a very good way to get back to the groove of being a full time wife and mom.  I was really recharged.  It was like I can peel 10 kilos of Chayote with a smile!  haha

Now, would I recommend Club Balai Isabel on your next trip? YES! but only of you can only get for half the price.  Booking it for 6,700 a night is quite pricey of you ask me.  I have little issues with cleanliness, lack of towels in the pool area, no toothbrush and toothpaste (has to be requested), and late opening of pool areas (8 am) ;)

Be sure to check Agoda before booking!  And of course, be sure to rest and enjoy the sweetness of not doing anything!


And oh, I made a video to sum up our trip!  This is my first time so please be appreciative haha


It was Friday last week when I met up with wives and moms that I do not know.  Crazy, right?  Well thanks (and no thanks) to social media, we ladies decided to ditch the famous Facebook group for a while and meet-up, for real!!

Two filed leaves from work, a few decided to pump milk so they can escape their little ones, some brought their families and a bunch literally took the leap and left their homes -- SOLO. Wuhoo!! Whatever the situations we chose last Friday, it was definitely worth meeting other moms who are in need of social life and unlimited kwentuhans.  It was really a for Fri-yay!!

We were about 22 and amazing on how everyone talked and listened at the same time -- what women can do!! 

In that 2 hour eye-ball (insert inside joke here), I learned a few things:

1.  Both stay-at-home wives and moms and working bellas need good talk and positive company once in a while

2.  We can make friends even on our mid-thirties

3.  No one is too tied up for meet-ups

4.  I can be a blessing and so you can be too

5.  Lastly, it was fun and we hope to do it again!!

If you are from the south, message me and I will make sure to invite you on our next meet-up!


Date nights are essential to any form of relationships. This can't be any true-er for married couples like us. However, the difficulty of spending time together is obvious when you live outside the Metro and you have a toddler in tow.

That is why, we were so thankful when we finally had the chance to visit Niña's Kitchen. We always pass by this house turned restaurant when we go home to Carmona. We were always intrigued of the cars parked outside, and the online reviews by no other than, Ms. Universe, Pia :)

So last week, when Risen spent the night in my parent's house, we finally made it inside! I was surprise to see that the food was affordable! To be honest, our pockets were ready to pay more because the ambiance was fine dining. To our amazement, it was actually not pricey!

We asked what was their specialty and did not think twice to order them. I got the Salmon while Bry got the spareribs Caldereta. Our food came after 20 minutes. 

Their food was yummers! It was filling, authentic and flavorful! We actually ended up tasting and finishing each other's food. Aside from the taste, what we really love was the ambiance. It was full yet it was quiet and cozy. Plus, the waiters were friendly!

Would we go back?  Yes!  I am looking forward to having dessert and ordering coffee :)

My final say on Niña's Kitchen?
The food is common but it was cooked superbly. Second, considering the cost, ambiance and location (if you live in Biñan, Carmona or nearby areas), this for me is the best date place! It is an easy escape to the "usual dining". If you want to be "transported to a hotel" and not worry about the cost, then Niña's Kitchen is the restaurant to be in!! 

Curious of the food and cost? Take a look at the photos I took!












This world tells us that we must chase after our dreams, people we value and money.  The society (aka FB) also gives us the idea that we need to always be on our best for these things to stay in our lives.  Our schools companies, businesses and even friends remind us that we also need to fight for the things we want to achieve.

Sounds like a wonderful game plan?

Who does not want to be in prestigious company, in a growing business, in a blossoming relationship, or in  great family ties?  I would want for myself as well - this is nothing but normal.  We all want to excel, be validated, maintain  the people we value and be "followed" or respected.  However, what becomes an issue is when we start running after these things before we chase God.  How we value the gift instead of the giver.  How we make excuses of doing these things instead of being busy with the Lord.  On how we passionately pursue our dreams and yet lazily listed to what God has been wanting to tell us.

 Now, does this still look like a game plan for success?

If we want to be successful in all areas of our life (including peace that surpasses all understanding), the only way is to honor God first.  This would mean arranging our schedule to make time with God first rather than making time with work, love life, family then lastly, God.  IF this is how you plan to run your life, or if this is your current state, then you are headed to failure.

You may be honoring God in your life, but let me tell you that this is not enough.   The goal is not to seek God but to seek God first.  
What Jesus has been telling us is "Me first",  "Chase me first", "Stop maintaining that relationship, settle your relationship with me first".  Once put God on the first spot, the we would not have to chase the rest of the things.  All else will follow.

Remember that the question is not if we are seeking Him, but IF we are seeking him first.  

So are you seeking God first?


God is the keeper of my dreams. Funny how I have forgotten some of them but He remembers them so well.  Not only that, He also gave them to me when I was ready!  I felt so even more special when He started handing it to me one by one at the beginning of my birthday month. Let me share to you my dreams that became realities in His time :)

1.  Our guesting at 702 DZAS - I have been listening to this christian AM radio station since I was 6 years old.  I would remember listening to the broadcast while I prepare for school.  This continued up until high school and I could somehow really say that it influenced my growing up years.  I have learned much from their counselling, lifestyle, and discipleship programs.  

Our first invite was to this station was last 2014.  Unfortunately, due to schedule, it did not happen.  I silently told God that I do not want to touch this area and I would want Him to orchestrate on how He would want it to be.  It was like me saying "bahala ka na Lord".  Then last May, someone contacted us to guest in TWO shows! The first one was in Pages which will highlight our love story (recorded) and will air on June 17.  The second one was the a live interview wherein we were able to share our business, Soli Deo Events Management.  


2.  Soli Deo Events Management - I would get so kilig every time I would see my favorite couple professors Mr. and Mrs. Mendiola walk in Philippine Normal University.  I would tell my classmates that I hope to also do this with my husband to be. Little did I know that while I was saying this, Bryan was studying in Pamantasa Ng Lungsod ng Maynila as a teacher.  At the moment we get to work, train, study, and teach together through our company.


3.  Our homeschooling journey - I am officially a homeschooling mom!  We started our first day last June 13.  I have waited and longed for this and we are finally here!


4.  Blissful marriage - By God's grace, we are turning 5 this year.  After all this time, I still secretly stare at my husband as I thank God for giving him to me.  

5.  Recent road trip - We are finally doing road trips! This has stalled for awhile (those with kids would understand) and I am just so glad we were able to drive long before I hit 36.