Showing posts with label honeymoon. Show all posts
Showing posts with label honeymoon. Show all posts

WAIT!! DO NOT GET MARRIED YET!

Yes, you are hearing this from someone who has been enjoying marriage for almost three years now.  I guess, this is the main reason why I am "warning" those who want to get married to consider the following below.  We have seen how a marriage could be ugly if done carelessly. It can be disappointing if you just jump on it. In many of our intentional talks about our relationship, we have seen how it really takes two  three (God plus us) to run this commitement.

1.  If you are a believer and follower of Jesus, marry someone of the same faith.  I have heard girls (and some boys) say that "okay lang, kasi mabait at responsible naman".  Let me tell you straight that in many decisions that you will make as a husband and wife, you do not need a man who is only kind and responsible.  Go, ask christian couples.  See what they have to say.  I am sure they would tell you that you need a man who will solely rely on God and His direction for your lives. I hope the hand you are holding now is the kind of hands who open up the Bible and commune with God thru prayer.  Because again, hindi pwedeng mabait lang.  Let me convince you more.  Read this

2.  Consider having your own home/apartment first.  Leave and cleave.  Allow your husband to be a leader or your wife to be a real homemaker.  After all, marriage is all about to having your own family so let it be.  It feels good to play "lutu-lutuan" and "bahay-bahayan" with the person you married.  Money may be an issue here, with that, go back to my title - "Wait!! Do Not Get Married Yet!".  To add read up on what Maricar Reyes has to say (wife to Ricahrd Poon) on this.

3.  Be sure to keep an "after wedding money".  A lot of people have told me to never borrow money (loan, use credit card, ask for money, etc) for a wedding because it is not good to start a new life with utang.  I agree with this, plus, to make sure to not spend all your savings for the wedding.  The married life is more important than the event that will only happen for a day. It would be nice if you could follow-up a wedding with spontaneous dates, staycations or even family visits.  Remember that a wedding should not make you broke.  It needs not be expensive.  You can always DIY, invite the closests, be a minimalist and creative.

second night as a married couple in Estancia Tagaytay

4.  Plan a honeymoon.  The first thing that we paid for was our plane ticket to Bangkok and Phuket.  We do not have anything yet but we already had bookings for honeymoon (which I am very glad we did).  Yes, we were that excited! I guess that for a couple who decided to wait (our first kiss was at the altar), this is something that is really cherished and looked forward too.  Our seven day honeymoon plus a long vacation was so worth the wait.  I hope you will choose to really enjoy your honeymoon too.







5. Having a baby can be "accepted" but it should not be a reason to get married.  I do not know how to put this without being too direct.  Just make sure you are doing it for the right reasons.  A baby does not only need parents.  He would want a mother and a father who loves each other as well.

6.  Talk about it.  Do not just discuss it between the two of you but have someone guide you, ask you difficult questions, mentor you and show you what marriage is all about.  Yes, marriage is different from every couple, but it would not hurt to get wisdom from the seasoned ones.  It will helpful to see what could be difficult and answer it with all honesty because one way or another, you will have to deal with it in the future. 

7.  Marry for the right reasons.  Not because you want to escape from responsibilities, not because you want to be away from home, not because to have a family (because what if God won't give you kids?), not because you are already old, not because of financial freedon, not because of convenience.  Get married because you have chosen to love and will choose to love the same person for a lifetime and lastly and most importantly, because it is clear that this is what God wants you to be and do.


Motherhood: On Being Pregnant with Risen

Risen was a honeymoon baby.  I can still vividly remember our conversation with our OB.

OB:  Congratulations! You are 6 weeks pregnant.
Mico and Bryan:  **Gives a very meaningful stare to each other**
Mico to OB: MMMMmmmmmm....Doc... pano po mangyayari yun? 4 weeks pa lang po kaming kasal.
OB:  Haha ganun talaga counting nun.  The count is from the last day of your last menstruation.  O, wag kayong mag-away ah...The count does not begin on your contact but on your menstrual cycle...
Mico and Bryan:  aaahhhh....ganun pala yun..

That talk was really awkward yet very informative.

Actually, even before we had a pregnancy test, Bryan was already convinced I was pregnant.  I, on the other side, was not.  This was because an OB in the past told me that the different position of my uterus will make it very hard for me to be pregnant.  With this, I leaned on the idea of having a childless marriage.

The famous "What if we do not get pregant?"  was one of the questions we sincerely
 talked about during our engagement.  However, obviously, God has a better plan.


During the very moment that we were waiting for a line or lines to appear in a USB liked shaped pregnancy test kit, I busily threw away the packaging and cleaned up the little mess I made in the restroom.  I was not really interested because I was positive that it would be negative.  On the other hand, Bryan, stared at the kit without blinking.  When the two lines appeared, my first reaction was "Hala, bakit dalawa?"  Bryan was like "Oo nga, dalawa"...Then the lines "Buntis ako, just came out of my mouth as I also teared-up".  Bryan just hugged me while my two hands remained stiffly on my side.  I was in complete disbelief.  I was not sad, nor happy, nor excited nor surprised.  I was just like..."what did just happen?  There is a baby inside me...."

I remember spending the rest of the day in bed.  I was still in awe and I did not know how to react.  I also remember demanding from Bryan that we see an OB asap to confirm my pregnancy.  I told him I would only be convinced with this, but after the check-up, I told him I still I need to have an ultra sound because, again, I need another "yes".  After three the yes-es (kit, OB, ultrasound), finally, I gave in.  We started telling our parents and announcing to closest friends.  That was the only time it sunk to my heart and head.  May reaction na ko!! hahaha

Then during our celebration, the Lord reminded me of His sovereignty.  



Truly, doctors are knowledgeable but God is the creator of them all, therefore,
 He has still the last say.  










WHAT ONE YEAR AND A FEW MONTHS OF BEING MARRIED TAUGHT ME



Being married for one year and a few months taught me that...



1.  Sense of humor can save couples from numerous and unwanted fights.



2. Cheesy date nights (or breakfasts) are happiness. We do our best to make time for it.



3.  Kissing when saying "goodbye" and "welcome home" must not be automatic. It should be done with intent. Make sure eyes meet ;) 


4.  Children should not be the center of the home/world. I think marriage and each other should still be the priority. Happy parents make happy children.





5. Cribs are helpful. At the end of the day, it is still nice to cuddle (since day 1, Risen sleeps in his crib) 













6.  Cooked food is a MUST. I make sure a meal is ready when Bryan comes home (kahit pa sabihin nya na he is busog and won't eat when he arrives home)


 
7.  Praying and having devotions together helps a lot.















8.  A kasambahay could be a blessing. If you have a "good" one, it can save you from stress, problems and quarrels

PS. We are very happy with our ate Marjorie









9.  Knowing Bryan's love language makes me know how to love him (Of course he knows mine too). 





10.  Texts, surprise love notes and pasalubongs are kilig. 

11.  A husband (or a wife) could make or break a marriage.  Do not hurry love, do not settle for good.  Seek for the "best" that God has prepared for you! 

Thailand day 7 - last day in Phuket


Last day = breakfast buffet day!

I have been reading a lot of raves online about the Renaissance breakfast buffet, and since we can’t afford this everyday (health and money factor), we saved the best for last.

I won’t spend much writing but will let the pictures and our big smiles (and tummies), speak for itself!  ENJOY!!
gutom!!















Thailand day 6 - (still) in Phuket


MERRY CHRISTMAS!
Just like my family’s tradition, we went to the Turtle Mart (grocery place) early in the morning to buy snacks we can munch for it is our most favourite time of the year (and snacks are pricey in hotels).  Since this day was our last whole day too, we grabbed the chance to enjoy our hotel and beach more.  It felt like we were forever on the pool side.  Mas naaliw pa kami when Santa Clause visited the people in the swimming area.  We were like kids so excited so we called him for a picture – it was definitely sugar rush! 




The morning was further spent doing nothing --just transferring from beach chair to another, vegetating, people watching.   For lunch, we headed to a 5 minute walk carinderia (where the hotel staff eat) and satisfied ourselves with a last hurrah of real Thai food.

The afternoon seemed long and short.  We both wanted to linger more but we are also excited for the real world.  We started talking about what we will do when we reach Manila, and this did not spoil our vacation for because we know this is grander than what we have now.





Our last night was concluded with a fancy dinner at Takieng (fine-dining restaurant of the hotel). We ate in the second floor with dim lights, overlooking the beach.  Our toes would sometimes touch other as we savor every bite of what is on our dinner plate. 

As always, we walked out of the restaurant with our hands clasped.  Only this time, my head was leaning on his shoulder and I whispered the words “I love you, husband”.  He then leaned on me and kissed me on the forehead saying “I love you too, wife”.






Thailand day 3 - (still) at Bangkok


We felt like “non-sense” for the past two days so we decided to have a field trip on our third day.  For teachers who love culture, traveling and facts, this would be a definite fun tour for us.   After filling our bellies with breakfast we both rode a Tuktuk and headed to John Thompson House Museum and Bangkok Art and Culture Centre. 

Sure we learned a lot of things today but our educational trip did not end here because we were faced with the question on why Philippines is never like Thailand when it comes to tourism.  Pinas’ value of money, weather, environment, places to see is just similar with Thailand, but why is it that we cannot see a lot of blondes and blacks in our country? Why oh why?

To stop ourselves from being too intellectual on our 3rd day abroad, we chose to go back to the hotel mid afternoon and retire early for the next day we would mark the halfway of our romantic escapade.  This I loathe and love.  Halfways of beautiful things are like half bitten tiny chocolate bars – you have tasted its goodness and one more bite would be its end.

Our Bangkok experience was thrilling, palate fulfilling and fun. They said that the best way to know a person is to travel with them, and indeed I got to know Bryan more in this trip.  We have discovered each others’ packing styles, sleeping habits, and patience when waiting.  I will never see Bangkok the same again.  It was indeed sweeter and grander because my hand has a hand to clasp it with.









Thailand day 2 - (still) in Bangkok


It was nice to wake up because we just felt like waking up.  No alarm clocks.  No knocking on the doors - just our plain reflexes that got us up.  With no itinerary in mind, we freshened up then headed to the dining area for our breakfast buffet.  Since some of the staff are Pinoys, the food was only 30 percent Thai which means nothing too much to rave about.  I started with brewed coffee and Bry had his plate of fruits.  We ate and talked like best friends for almost two hours - teasing each other like newlyweds (ay, newly wends nga pala kami ;p). Oh the bliss of just being together, discussing random and silly ideas and enjoying every bite of our hearty meal.

Since we stood up with happy tummies, we decided to hit to the nearby tiangges to burn a few calories.  We scored a few pasalubongs for family and closest friends then chose the street food place where we can have authentic Thai food. I had Tom Yum and Bry had Pad Thai – and once again, I was delighted to have these wonderful flavors explode in my palette.  We snatched a Nuttela-Banana Crepe and Guava as we went up to our room.  The rest of the early afternoon was spent inactively with non-sense chattering on the side - don’t you love this?

In the late afternoon, we opted to people watch in the park and admire that we are actually together under the Bangkok slowly fading sun.  It was the honeymoon that we booked first – and when I say first, we did not have a wedding venue yet when we booked hotels in Thailand.  It was just beyond amazing to be in a place where you were discussing about before – what we have been planning and praying for all happened (and is almost halfway done?! Nooo!)

Since we have been practically eating all day, we decided to have late dinner at the nearby food stalls near the river.  This food place already caught my eye because it was a place with 3 things street plus foreigners plus Thai food = great place to dine!  We ended our meal inside a coffee shop because my company needs, badly needs tea – go figure! :D   

We walked hand in hand under the smoggy streets.  There was nothing neither romantic nor lovely on the roads we were crossing but the feeling that you are free to be together made everything sparkly.  I have a man I like and love and I am coming home with him tonight.