Showing posts with label love. Show all posts
Showing posts with label love. Show all posts

ANG HUGOT NG #READYTOMARRY

Marriage is intricate.  It is complicated, beautiful and breathtaking.  It is a wonderful experience for people who threw themselves to reality of marriage - which is to be one and to cleave.  It is dangerous and awful because the weakness of your partner and the disappointments it can bring will make you question on why did you marry from the very first place.  Marriage is fun, it asks for worries, yet it brings you comfort.

Marriage is detailed.  God gave us instructions to obey.  Disobedience means consequences.  

Marriage is beautiful because it was created by God.  Therefore it should bring you laughter and joy amidst sorrow. 

Marriage is a lifetime commitment.  That even when your spouse sins, you would be willing to forgive again, and again and again.

It is fixed. permanent. and forever.

This is why you should prepare before getting married. 

ON LOVE AND TELLING THE WORLD ABOUT IT

This is probably the most rewarding, fulfulling and productive vday I have ever had. To begin, I spent it with Bryan. Then we had the chance to do the things we love that looked forward doing since we werw engaged with the people that matters to us.

It was Feb 13, Saturday when the Singles Fellowship of CCF Muntinlupa had the Event entitled
"On a Personal Note, Ang Concert ng Sari-Saring Love Stories".  This music night featured the different phases of love thru songs.  The ambiance was so relaxed, fun and interactive.  Parang group videoke lang!  This fun night turned out to be more special because Bryan and I had a chance to share how God puzzled our stories, lives and hearts together.  Such a pleasure to speak about our friendship, engagement and marriage. 





full house at Qaldi Coffee Bar
with Joy

On the second day of our Vday weekend, we spent it with our D-group (young couples) a.k.a Sanity friends.  It was such a fun meet-up because we got to answer a few questions from the youth of Danielle's home church..  Here are some of the inquiries we got:

1.  Paano ko po malalaman kung mahal ako nung babae?
2.  Ilang taon po pwedeng mag-asawa?
3.  Bakit po hindi ako crush ng crush ko?
4.  may nangyari po sakin nung bata ako, may magmamahal pa po ba na lalaki sa akin?

After our 45 minutes question and answer stint, we gather to talk about God's design for marriage.

                                
panel :)


To cap-off, we are so thankful that we had a chance to share our love for each other and God's love to us.  It would be difficult to stay in-love without His love and grace.  My desire is we would know what God's love is all about because this is the only way we can truly love each other.  (Please check Risen's ribbon below hehe)



Aaaannnddd wait, let me share the sprinkles on top of my full vday.  It ended so sweetly.  Thank you, Bryan!  I can't wait to love you more and tell the world about it!


CHASING PEOPLE AND FRIENDSHIPS

I sometimes wish I could let go of people easily. In many times, I find myself chasing people and friendships. I am a people person. I always choose the relationship than whatever is happening between us. Ewan ko ba, but it is just really difficult for me to be distant or make tampo.  I always see myself understanding the person.

The situation I am in is sometimes tiring (some people call it stupid). It is like allowing myself to get hurt over and over again - sometimes by the same people. It also means choosing to fully believe people when they say "sorry", "promise", next time,  etc.

When the image and thought below circulated on the Internet, my mind wanted to repost it, however, I knew that my heart says the opposite.

Let me also recount a quote a week ago which says that a person should not be chasing friends and true love.  I believe this is true, however at the end of the day, I feel like there are some relationships that need chasing and saving.  I do not know about you, but for me, the relationships that I have matters (or maybe some don't) and I just can't let them go down the drain.  Just too difficult.

image not mine
I do not know if this is good or bad.  I sometimes feel gullible and "stupid" for trying to fix things.  I just really pray that this would be used for His glory.  Maybe I should consider it a gift? I do not know.  My heart will just always say that I have patience for you, and you, and you.


I FOUND LOVE IN THE PARKING LOT

When Bryan told me he would drive from his house to CCP parking lot just to see me before I watch a play with my cousin Dei, I knew in my heart I found a love.  Fine, it was not "love" agad, but the thought that there was this (gwapo) guy who would want to see me for no reason at all is something that the butterflies in my tummy won't deny.  I have actually forgotten what the play was all about, but I still vividly remember the pawis on my nose (because of kaba) and how I slept with a smile on my face that night.  The world seemed magical that moment (actually, the magic lasted for about a week or so).

Adamson grad 2009 (i think)

studying together
 What a joy is it to find  "new love".  So refreshing to find a different face among the crowd.  At that time, there was no "sana maging kami" or "sana sya na" or "sana ligawan nya ko" or even "sana sya na God's will ko".  I knew it will be a beautiful story so I just had to wait for it to unfold.  There was no pressure or waiting or pushing or asking.

Adamson Christmas party 2009
church outing
That meet up led to other dates. Those instances were solid good times.  Aside that he was always on time, I knew that our date would be nice and light but with sincerity, direction and intent.  It was Good vibes...always.
Enchanted Kingdom 2010

Rizal's house

Rizal's house

Now that we are married, the best part of my day is when he comes home or when I see him walking towards me when I have to pick him up or meet him in the grocery.  It is like, HE IS HERE, BRYAN IS HEREEEEE!!! --with fireworks that makes you go "wwwoooowww"!!

Every time I see him I knew in my heart and mind I found love.  Seeing his face amongst a sea of people is always an answered prayer. It always makes my heart flutter.




TO THE MAN WHO TOLD ME THAT MARRIAGE IS ONLY "FUN" ON THE FIRST YEAR

                                                     



By God's grace, our marriage is still fun po.

It may not be perfect but it is still awesome.  Though your "reminder" was a little off (especially that you mentioned it a week after our wedding), it made me very mindful to make each day count.

To make sure that arguments end with forgiveness.  That miscommunication end with clarification. That we still make each other a priority though we have Risen.  That we put God in every decision we make.

Your "reminder" also made me realize that making marriage fun all through life is a bit challenging but it is doable.  Good thing, we are not alone. The creator of marriage also wants our relationship to not just work. God wants also to be romantic, fun, beautiful and inspiring.

We have only been married for two and a half years so we know that the next years are really unknown. Marami pa po kaming kakaining bigas.  However, we have seen and met couples who have been married for the longest time but are still very excited about each other and their marriage.  They are our inspiration.  We have God and we have these inseparable couples to look up to.  

So just in case you would ask po, yes, I would love to marry the crazy man I am with again and again and again.  








From Being MARRIED To Becoming IT'S COMPLICATED

from love to bleh
from kisses to turned backs
from holding hands to walking apart from each other
from  long sweet talks to silence
from being married to becoming it's complicated






What happened, love birds?


I do not have specific answers but I have a list of the possible things that might be harming your marriage.  These are mostly principles from the Bible and  I chose this to be on top of the list because I believe that God gave very specific instructions for happy and ideal relationships.  I am not an expert myself so I always make sure to go back to His words. Isn't it great that God made sure we have guidelines to help us with our lives?  Yes, even with our marriage!  If we choose to obey them, we will surely have a better life. So if you are a believer of God and His Word, this might be helpful for you and your marriage.

1.  You still live with your parents or in-laws
As the Scriptures say, "A man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one." Ephesians 5:31

2.  Husbands, you do not show your love to your wife and wives, you do not show respect to your husband
"Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her"Ephesians 5:23-25

3.  You need to forgive
Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you. Ephesians 4:32

4.  You have the wrong set of priorities. 
But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.- Matthew 6:33
So flee youthful passions and pursue righteousness, faith, love, and peace, along with those who call on the Lord from a pure heart. 2 Timothy 2:22

5.  Your roles have changed.  The wives have become the leader and the husbands the follower.
"Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her" - Ephesians 5:23-25

let me also add a thing or two from my observation...

6.  You still have your kid/s in the middle of your bed

7.  There is too  much use of gadget while inside the car, before going to sleep, inside the restaurant, or even during "family time"

8.  You have a long distance relationship

9.  Work or sleep has taken over Sabbath day

As I mentioned earlier, I am not an expert on marriage.  However, we are blessed to have a very supportive D-group and church who counsels and teaches us how to protect our marriages.  In our D-group at CCF Muntinlupa, I and Bryan sit down with other couples where we discuss our issues, blessings and questions on motherhood, fatherhood, work, relationships, or generally, with our married life.  Then in our church, we have topics where we are pointed out to the giver of all things - Jesus!!We also have retreats and other events solely for married couples.  It is good to be surrounded by people who values their marriages. I hope that you will choose to also be with other couples who sees marriage as sacred, pure and God given.

Marriage was created by God and He wants it to always be a "top of the world experience".  It is not His will to be sour and empty.  If you or your marriage needs help and you have questions with the list that I wrote, you can PM me.  Maybe we can discover more what the Bible says on this over a cup of cofee.  My treat, promise!