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THE OTHER BEST

I believe there are two kinds of best in the world - 
the best on our perspective
 and the best according to God's eyes plan  

I can still painfully remember (yes, may kurot pa din) the moment when we were scrolling down to check Bryan's name in the list of Bar passers - he was seated on his chair while I was on his back, my two hands on his shoulders.  Both our eyes did not blink when we were reading the surnames of the succesful bar examinees.  It just remained closed for a long time when I started to crying as I hugged Bryan from the back.  

I can say it was the most painful stage we have gone through as a married couple so far.  Since I knew Bryan's childhood dream is to be called an attorney, I too fell in love with this profession.  I imagined myself being a wife of a lawyer.  However, many of you know, this dream did not happen (he failed by 0.45), and as of the moment, my husband remains to be a professor in the College of Liberal Arts in Adamson University.

As we were moving on from this sad news, we thought hard on why he was not allowed to pass.  On why God said "no".  Everyone believed in him.  We were certain that this will be the best for our little family.  We claimed it was also a part of God's agenda.  We were convinced that since we offered everything in prayer, and because Bryan did his part, God willl give us the best.  And this best is the title Attorney to the name Bryan Eli Bagasin Sadorra.  

People comforted us by telling that God has other better plans.  We know and believe this, but we have to be honest that there were times this was difficult to see.  I saw myself asking "God, bakit hindi pwedeng maging lawyer si Bryan?  What can be better than this?"  Now that it has been almost a year that my husband took the bar exams, I may not still see God's bigger agenda, however, in my heart I am thankful he is still a teacher.

I am thankful for the short working days, long and paid holidays (summer, semestral break, Christmas vacation),  cancellation of classes (due to programmes) and weekends that Bryan has.  His schedule is not hectic.  He is an available husband, hands-on dad, and a relaxed member of our house.  No stress at work. No overtime.  No competition with his schedule. He does not give us what is left of him because when he comes home (the sun is still up) he is still a ball of energy.

Another thing I am happy about is the friendly, no compromise and healthy working environment.  I worked once in Adamson so I know that one way or another, Bryan is in "good hands".  His friends all go home after work (Bakit nga ba kayo ganyan? Mag kape naman kayo minsan after class!!), they are all family oriented, they have good laughs in between classes, and they treat us as family.  Nothing more I could ask for.

Lastly, we have time for God and his ministry.  To be honest, I am not sure if we can be this active in church (which we are super duper so happy about) if Bryan has another line of work. But as of the moment, we are really grateful for the chance to journey with people.  To serve God and be a witness on how He moves to the lives of the people we are with.

As I type this, I am asking myself if  "I am just bitter".  Well, maybe, sometimes.  However, I am more focused on the idea that this is what is best from God's perspective.  And since we love and trust Him, we should see the beauty of His plan. There is life after a failure.  There is beauty when we align our perspective to His.  Yes, I still want my husband to take the bar exams, but as of the moment, I will enjoy what we have.  

This is from God. This is the other best. This is what is truly the best.


CHASING PEOPLE AND FRIENDSHIPS

I sometimes wish I could let go of people easily. In many times, I find myself chasing people and friendships. I am a people person. I always choose the relationship than whatever is happening between us. Ewan ko ba, but it is just really difficult for me to be distant or make tampo.  I always see myself understanding the person.

The situation I am in is sometimes tiring (some people call it stupid). It is like allowing myself to get hurt over and over again - sometimes by the same people. It also means choosing to fully believe people when they say "sorry", "promise", next time,  etc.

When the image and thought below circulated on the Internet, my mind wanted to repost it, however, I knew that my heart says the opposite.

Let me also recount a quote a week ago which says that a person should not be chasing friends and true love.  I believe this is true, however at the end of the day, I feel like there are some relationships that need chasing and saving.  I do not know about you, but for me, the relationships that I have matters (or maybe some don't) and I just can't let them go down the drain.  Just too difficult.

image not mine
I do not know if this is good or bad.  I sometimes feel gullible and "stupid" for trying to fix things.  I just really pray that this would be used for His glory.  Maybe I should consider it a gift? I do not know.  My heart will just always say that I have patience for you, and you, and you.


MY GOD COMPLETES ME

**originally written 2013


Lately, instead of parking right beside my office, I park behind the Insular Life building.  The reason is basic – 50 php vs. 30 php. 

Anyway, one early morning, it dawned on me that Insular Life building was the place where I directed Repertory League of International Christian Academy (REPLICA). Since I was a Theater grad, this production was a product of theory, hard work, sweat, passion, late-nights, and long rehearsals which I did not mind at all -- I actually loved every minute of it.

Aside from the beautiful memories I made in that show, I also remembered the night I sadly sat down inside my car while holding a bouquet of flowers my Production Manager gave me during the last curtain call.  

I was not upset because the play was a flop (the show was a hit) but because of a reality.  I believed God allowed me to feel and realize that no claps, standing ovation, praises, flowers, hugs and congratulations could make me “whole”.  In the beginning I was asking God on why I was not “on top of the world” after receiving positive comments? After mulling over and praying, God made me see that I can be only "full" in Him and with Him.

image not mine


I am not saying that we shouldn’t be celebrating victories.  What I am expressing is the things that we get from the world are temporary.  It would last.  It would end.  So, while we are at it, enjoy.  Include God in EVERY step.  Chew every bite of it.   Learn from all its ups and downs.  Because when it ends, it ends.  There is no way of coming back.

To end this “senti blog”, allow me to share this pop song of Britney Spears.  Ironic ba? Senti then Britney.  Well, so be it, let it be ironic.  Medyo related kasi.


LUCKY

Early morning, she wakes up
Knock, knock, knock on the door
It's time for make-up, perfect smile
It's you they're all waiting for
They go,
"Isn't she lovely, this Hollywood girl?"
And they say,

[Chorus]
She's so lucky, she's a star
But she cry, cry, cries in her lonely heart, thinking
If there's nothing missing in my life
Then why do these tears come at night?

Lost in an image, in a dream
But there's no one there to wake her up
And the world is spinning, and she keeps on winning
But tell me what happens when it stops?
They go,
"Isn't she lovely, this Hollywood girl?"
And they say,

[Chorus]

"Best actress, and the winner is, Lucky!"
"I'm Roger Johnson for Pop News standing outside the arena waiting for Lucky."
"Oh my god, here she comes!"

Isn't she lucky, this Hollywood girl?
She is so lucky, but why does she cry?
If there's nothing missing in her life
Why do tears come at night?

























OH TO BE 34!!

I feel young and old at the same time.  Like when I wear sneakers -- I double check if I can still rock it.  Also when I wear sando type tank tops, I often go back to the mirror and see if I still look "good" in it?


This also goes with my crazy life. I feel so young that I know I can still make lots of babies but I feel too old to give birth.  I also feel too old to go back to Masters but I feel too young to give up on my dreams.  And oh, one more thing, I sometimes feel I am too young that I can still travel the world twice but I feel a bit old because of the "responsibilities" that stop me from travelling.





Oh to be 34!

On the other hand, looking back at my past journals this is how exactly I "planned" my life.  Years back, I promised myself to marry a good looking man (wink wink) and have a family.  I also saw myself staying away from my parents and live independently.  I also made sure I will be a stay-at-home-mom to be able to serve my family (this is one of the reasons I chose to be a teacher).  And guess what? I am here now!

So hello to my 34 year old self, so glad you are where you wanted to be!




I am thrilled to live this age because I know God will accomplish more in my life.  My official hashtag for this year is #inspire.

At the end of the day, what is important is how I lived my life and how many people have been touched and inspired with it. I want to invest in the lives of the people around me.  I pray that I will be able to do it this year.  With God's help, may my life and family be an inspiration to others. I want.  I really want.

Oh to be 34!


RAFA'S AMAZING SPIDERMAN PARTY!

Risen was overwhelmed with Rafa's (cousin from the Bagasin side) 4th bday party!  
He went sooo giddy when he saw the balloons!




I and Bryan naman got to thrilled when we saw the food carts! I went straight to the fishball stand and Bryan went (and returned a COUPLE OF TIMES, hehe buking!!) to the pastry and chocolate spread!



We were further entertained by the Photobooth (El Libramilio), games, and magic show.








It was a good day to be with family! Thanks again for the invite Rafa!! Playdate soon! :)








ROLLER COASTER APRIL: From Family Celebrations to Unending Buffet Meals to Receiving Bry's Bar Exam Grades!!

I have not had the time to write for the month of April.  I was so busy eating!!!







Tita Noemi, Mommy's sister from the US surprised the Bagasin clan as she crashed Tito Abe's retirement and birthday party.






 The feasting did not end here!  This was just the beginning of the endless meet-ups, dinner, lunch. brunch, etc with the Bagasin family members.  As I am homebased (meaning I can work while watching Risen enjoy Tito Sammy's pool) and Bryan had a pretty much flexi schedule, we were able to spend time not only with Tita Noemi but also with Mommy who filed for a two week leave.



We did not think twice of making the effort to drive,  bring Risen and stay for the night (or nightssss) to be with family.  I think, this is one of the wise decisions to always do - BE WITH FAMILY.  This is not only healthy for a restless feet like me but also for Risen.  I am glad he was able to play, run around and get to know his cousins.  Though he does not fully remember them by name, it is good to see that when Risen sees them, he recognizes them already! He instantly hugs and plays with them.







The Bagasins are not really from my side of family (Bryan's Mom is a Bagasin) so I basically have two choices, to treat them family or to let them be "Bry's family".  With these, I choose number 1 - I want make a conscious effort to see and love them as family.  I am grateful because this is not hard to do.  They have always been warm, friendly and really nice.  I may not know each one of them but I am more that glad because I am comfortable to be with them -- to call them family.  Such a wonderful feeling!


Oh yes, this month, Bryan also got his Bar Exam Grades.  His grade was 72.45.  The passing was 73. Soooo close!! haha So he is like my Atty. na kinulang ng 0.5! hahaha

The Practical Ways of Staying in Shape

I may not be in the perfect shape, but I think I have done a great job coz I still buy clothes in medium sizes!! Woohoo!!.  Though I have my genes (both Ruiz and Dimanlig have medium built) to thank, I say I still do my part.  If I do not watch my body, there is a very big possibilty that I would not be able to maintain my desired size. Want some help? Here!

1.  Do not buy a bigger size of clothes.  Stay on your size.  Make it fit!

2. You can eat what you want for breakfast.  If you are tempted to eat a lot during late lunch or dinner , freeze it then eat it in the morning! 

3.  Make people accountable.  Annouce that you are on a diet.

4.  If you are in-charge of the grocery shopping, buy healthy food.

5.  Have a cheat day.  It is okay to eat.  But remember, it should only be a cheat day, not a sheat week!!

6.  If possible, arrange dates or eat outs during lunch.  This will still give you time to burn what you munched.

7.  Exercise at least 10 minutes a day.  I know most of you would want to lose weight without sweating but this is kind of impossible especially when you have reached your 30s.  So come on, just do jumping jacks, planks, and sit-ups.

BAR EXAMS 2014: 5 Things I Have Re-learned

1. I love Bryan - I felt his pain (actually parang mas affected ako).  A lot of married couples have been telling us that there will come a time that what your husband's passion will also become yours. That his pains and joys will be yours too. Ito na ata yun. It is really possible to feel your spouse in a very different level. I guess I have just experienced empathy.

2. Bitterness is a part of "moving-on" - As I continue to digest the result, let me come clean by saying that I have asked the question "Bakit sila pumasa? Bakit si Bryan, hindi?" in my mind for a hundred of times.  To think that Bryan has never failed a subject, He graduated top 3 of his class, he studied for over a year, he wanted to work as a lawyer for a low paying NGO, plussss we prayed really hard. So bakit nga ba hindi? (insert tears here).  However, just like a friend from church named Ate Lorena, let us not wallow on this but still focus on God's sovereignity.

3. I badly miss my childfood friends - When I got the news, all the landline numbers of my friends flashed back.  I wanted to call each one of them and say, "punta kayo dito sa bahay, bili kayo Coke at Pancit Canton, papa press-con ako". However, the fare from Canada, Australia and the US seem to be a bit expensive so I guess I have to settle with this person named Maan who will come home very soon. I guess that in bad times, you remember your true friends and the people who knows you the most, and since they are really your bestest of friends, you do not mind bugging or disturbing them - this has already been a part of the sacred deal.

4. I should not see people based on their title or profession.  Enough said.

5. Trials are really essential to strengthen relationships- To date, this is probably the "unang dagok" we have ever faced as a couple.  Facing problems as a couple is both difficult and easy.  Hard because, who wants issues to face? and "easy" because you have each other (and God of course). However, it was a good experience to encourage one another.  Ang weird that if I feel like crying, Bryan would try to uplift me by saying that "it's okay I failed.  I am okay with it", then pag sya naman yung down, I would hug and tell him that he could take the Bar exams again.  Haaay!

BAR EXAMS: When You Wait Then God Says "No/Not Now"

There was a strange feeling of physical pain in my chest when I did not see Bryan's name on the list of bar 2014 passers.  There was like a hole in my heart.  Masakit.  After a second or two, I started weeping  and all I can do is cover my face and say "I am sorry" to Bryan.  All I could do was cry.

I cried because I could not give the title "Atty" to Bryan.  As a wife, I would give anything to my husband.  And it badly hurts me that at this time, what we can only do is be sorry and comfort each other.

We have been waiting and praying for this day since we became bf-gf.  Every night, this has been in our prayers.  We also rallied people to pray for us.  Aside from all of these, Bryan studied hard - really hard.  On our side, we knew we did our part while allowing God to do His. 

However, amidst of our long waiting and praying, God replied with a "No/Not Now" - which at the moment really sounds bad and difficult to deal with.


We still do not know the reason why God allowed this.  Naiiyak pa din ako.  Masakit pa din. But at the end of the day, He remains to be the God who knows what is best for us.  Today, this is what is perfect.  Today, this is what is needed.  Today, this is God's answer to our prayers, to our waiting. Today, the answer is "no". 

Amidst of all the tears, the hugs, and the comfort we try to give to each other, we will not be moved nor question God's faithfulness to us. We have Him, our marriage, each other, Risen, our families, friends, church and support group. We are in pain, but allow us to declare that God is still good and He will continue to be.  All praises to Him!!!



Meet Jihan. My College Friend Who Survived Cancer.

I hate Cancer.  I have seen my closest friends cry over their mom's death because of this disease.  When Jihan told me she cancer, I honestly thought I would lose her too.  However, God turned things round and made her Cancer free! Praise God.  Let me share to you this amazingly, beautiful story!!


Jihan is the girl in yellow daster and rollers

How did you find out you had Cancer?
I was experiencing shortness of breathe and I felt lumps on my throath area so I decided to have a consult.  I was working at TELUS when I was diagnosed with Hodgkin's Lymphoma. The Pulmunologist from Makati Med (I forgot his name) told me that the findings says that I have cancer so he referred me to an oncologist in the same hospital.


Jihan is the girl in yellow (yes, yellow again)


How did you deal with the treatment? hospitalization? cancer?
At first I had to do natural healing for about 6 mos. However, the supplements were so expensive that we can't handle the expenses anymore so I had no choice but to undergo Chemotherapy. We opted to have procedures in PGH because it is a lot less expensive compared to other hospitals. And besides we can ask assistance from PCSO and Senators for the laboratory and treatment expenses.



I prayed really hard that I may be able to accept chemotherapy and radiation as my option to be healed. I heard and read a lot of feedback that Chemo targets not only the cancer cells but even the good cells. I was scared to undergo those treatments. That's why I remember begging God to heal me as early as possible with just the natural way in order for me not to experience chemotherapy and radiation, because I was so scared! But I drew strength from Jesus as I read the scriptures how scared Jesus was when He was praying at the Garden of Gethsemane that resulted Him to cry and sweat in blood, but He told God the Father, to let His will be done. And finally, I was able to say it to Him, let His will be done in my life. I told Him that I will embrace Chemotherapy and Radiation as His way of healing me. It takes a lot of prayers from family and friends and myself, a lot of inner healing retreats before I was finally able to say, Lord, let your will be done. I learned to enjoy each step of the way. I enjoyed being in the hospital. It was tough but I enjoyed the place, the fellow patients presence, the life inside the hospital. I just accepted everything. That was how I dealt with it. I dealt with cancer by accepting the fact that I had it and knowing that with God's grace my body will defeat it.

What part of Cancer was the most painful?
The blood extractions were painful because I was kinda bloated so they were having hard time to hit the veins. The blood transfusion was hard too. During my first chemo, they had to transfuse blood because my CBC count was not normal anymore, I am not sure if it was the hemoglobin or the platelet that was low.

There was one chemo drug that, that was painful every time it enters my veins but it was tolerable. One of the hardest part was the grogginess and the tipsiness that I felt after chemo sessions and of course the vomiting episodes...classic un...hahahah...I want to thank our kasambahay, back then,  Nerissa for being on my side that time to help me fall asleep even I was vomiting the whole day and night...hehehe

Did you think you would die during that time?
Of course, it came across my mind that I might die especially during the time that I was rushed to the hospital because I can't breathe. It was Holy Wednesday 0f 2011 when I was rushed to the hospital. That was the time, somehow, even just a bit (compared to Jesus' experience) I felt and experienced the sufferings and pains that Jesus experienced, the one that we usually remember during Holy Week. 

How did you stay cheerful and hopeful?
I stayed cheerful because that has been me. I mean that's my personality. I am cheerful in nature. I always see funny stuff in every perspective even in a very pathetic situation (as others may perceive). I stayed hopeful because I believe GOD LOVES ME. AND I USED THAT LOVE AS MY WEAPON TO BE STRONG AND HOPEFUL. That was the only thing I held in my hand, in my heart, in my mind, and in my soul. 




How did you know you are cancer free?
The CT Scan result in 2013 said that I don't have tumor anymore.

3 things that changed in you:

  • The way I express, understand, and feel LOVE
  • I now always pray not just for myself but I now pray for others especially for the sick. 
  • I now have more FAITH, HOPE, AND LOVE in me. Because I EXPERIENCED GOD! 
What is your advocacy? Organizations that you support?

  • I now organize outreach programs for cancer patients at UP-PGH Cancer Institutesometimes at C.H.I.L.D Haus
  • volunteer catechist
  • church worker in our parish
  • I guess my greatest advocacy is to spread to everyone that God is alive and HE hears our prayers and HE will give, in His time, everything that we ask for.

As of today, she is happily engaged with Albert Magno and works as an Instructor in Southville International School.  She also helps out with their family owned school in Cavite.



How to Peacefully Do your Grocery with a Toddler

Today, I did grocery shopping with Risen.  I thought it would be impossible to go to a supermarket and tick off a long list of things to buy.  I was surprised to find out it could actually be a great time!  If you are having doubts or any problems doing errands with your 18 month old baby, check these tips I made for you.

Before leaving…

1.     Plan ahead.  Doing duties outside the house with your child must not be spontaneous
2.     Choose a time where your son or daughter does not have to sleep or have a meal.  Normally, when a child is hungry or sleepy, he becomes cranky. 
3.     Pick a short route and traffic free hour.
4.     Wear comfy and “safe” clothes.  This goes for you and your baby.  Be dressed in a kind of attire wherein leaning forward, carrying your son, picking up something on the floor or bending sideways won’t be a problem.
5.     Have a complete bag of essentials for your little one. 
     o   Milk and bottles
     o   Water
     o   Snack
     o   Wipes
     o   Towel
     o   Diaper
     o   Extra clothes
     o   Alcohol
6.     Instead of bringing your heavyweight mommy bag, carry a small sling bag. This will make sure you have the energy and space to carry your toddler if you have to.
7.     Prepare a grocery list and stick to it.
8.     Buckle-up (assuming your child has a car seat) and drive safe
9.     Park where there would be a good room to maneuver your cart (assuming you will end up with 3-4 bags in a cart).  Pick a "safe" area as well.

In the grocery…

1.     Choose a manageable cart.  Some carts are difficult to steer.
2.     When strolling along “safe aisles”, meaning nothing stacked will be broken, allow your child to walk around.  This would permit him to explore safely.  Note that putting your child inside the cart will create boredom.  
3.     Avoid allowing your toddler to open and munch on what you are buying.  Do not start a habit that you would want to break in the long run.  Make sure all snack items will not be unwrapped while you are doing the grocery.  Again, you do not want to equate grocery time = “I can open anything and eat what I want”
4.     When buying bottled items, keep your kiddo inside the cart.
5.     If your child is bored, the best temporary play area is the noodles or pasta section.
6.  Use this time as a learning activity.  Count, sing, read, teach colors and shape.  I have seen parents who allow their kids to use tabs.  This is sad.  Your kiddos (especially the pre-schoolers) can learn fraction, costing, food pyramid, and a lot of other things in the grocery!!
7.     When paying, check if you could use the lane for senior citizens and pregnant customers.  Malay mo, makalusot? ;)
8.  Do not rush.  Maybe a little Hide and Seek wouldn't hurt.   
9.  Carry your child while the cashier is scanning and placing your goods in bags.  I had an experience where I was not able to collect everything I paid for because I was so busy looking after Risen.  (I think the lady did not place some of the items I bought inside the grocery bag)

When going home…

1.     It would be wise not to go home right away.  Instead play a little.  Why? Since your child has been inside the cart most of the time, it would not be a good idea to buckle him right away in his car seat.
2.     Secure the grocery in your trunk first (it would be better if you can ask someone to assist you).  If you do not have help,  allow your child to stay in the cart as you do this.  Look around just to check if there are any malicious looking people.    That is why it is best to park near a guard, well lighted and busy area.  After checking, buckle-up your son.
3.     Watch out for the doors and keys.  You do not want to leave the keys inside a locked car with your little one inside.
4.     Hopefully, it would be milk time on your way home.  A bottle of milk is safe for a toddler to handle alone than biscuits or juice.
5.     Drive safe.


Promise, it would be fun.  Try it! :)




Watch out, Mommies!

No stay-at-home mother can claim that she is the best mom just because she is with her child 24/7.  Though I have been only a mother for almost 19 months now, I have seen the “dangers” of being a mom who is always at home.  I think a stay-at-home mother is more prone to be a negligent mom.

Why?  Here are my reasons:

     Because she has nothing else to do. No matter how old the child is, rearing a son or daughter can be draining most  of the time especially if this is your “only responsibility”.  It can be exhausting, boring, demanding and difficult in a lot of areas.  A full time mom may have the tendency to be fed up and extremely impatient with his kids.

      Because she feels unfulfilled.  Some mothers who suddenly gave up their awesome careers to be a stay-home-mom may sense dullness with her new “job”.  Being in the four corners of the house is not a glamorous job.  If you are a new mom, you’d probably smell like sour milk, walk around without any brassier (because you are breastfeeding), bathe fast and totally lose control of your routine.  There is a big leaning to miss your career life and hope that things could easily go back to “normal”.  With this, she may miss the joy of being a mother because she misses a lot of other things.

      Because she thinks she is “always” with her kids. We have a helper at home who also assists me with my son.  I think this is a good idea but I always try to see to it that I am still hands on to Risen.  When you have extra help, it is very easy to delegate and do something else.  This is still a usual struggle for me.  So what I do is set specific times wherein I am in-charge.  Like the feeding, bathing, reading, putting to sleep and others. When I work online, I also see to it I can see him with our house help.


    Being a full time mother is probably the one of the wisest decision I have made but that does not make me a hero.  I may be 24-7 physically present but I can still be emotionally away from my child.  Impatience, boredom, stress, and tiredness might eat me up.  So the key here is balance.  Do something on the side.  Do little things that make you alive.  Go out once in a while.  Exchange stories with other mothers.  Breathe.    Lastly, make sure you are giddy and joyful with your kids.  At the end of the day they do not want a mom-zilla.  So, mommies just like me, watch out!!

12 TIPS (na naging 21 kasi ang dami pala) FOR A HIGH SCHOOL GRADUATE:

 Welcome to College!  The world of many possibilities, circumstances and relationships. I hope that the list below will enlighten you. This is coming from used-to-be college instructor and an older sister to a college freshman.

1.  KEEP RIGHT - Oh please! When using the stairs, walking along the hallways and entering the door, be sure to keep right! At wag din makipagharutan while walking, ok?! Irita.com ito!!!

2.  SHOW A PLEASANT FACE - Smile (and maybe greet anyone) whoever meets your eyes. Who knows? He could be SOMEONE e.g Registrar, teacher, school president, librarian. Sad to say, a lot of people from big schools do not give second chances. If they find you annoying, you will forever be.

3. LOVE THE MANONG GUARDS,  MANANG CANTEEN AND ATE TAGA LINIS - These people are your must haves in universties. Make friends with them. Be sure to do this sincerely.

4.  ACTIVELY PARTICIPATE IN AN ORGANIZATION - Develop your leadership and servanthood skills (mahirap mag maganda sa classroom, matatawag ka na epal, sa organization pwede ka magpakabibo) . Meet older students. Learn outside the classroom. Attend meetings. Be responsible to something. 

5. SIT IN FRONT - Not all teachers can memorize their students names. Make sure to be positively familiar to your professors. Iba ang pakiramdam ng kilala ng Professor. You get to relax a little.

6.  CHOOSE YOUR FRIENDS - You do not need a barkada in the beginning of the school month. Observe first. Choose them wisely. The personality, character and hobbies of your friends can affect you, your upbringing and your college life. Ingat! BAD COMPANY CORRUPTS GOOD CHARACTER.

7. YOSI, BEER, BF/GF, SEX and FRAT - In college, these would appear common. It would seem everyone is doing it except for you. Most of these are tried in college. Your barkada will probably do it. WAG NG SIMULAN!! Stay away from it.

8.  BE PUNCTUAL - college is a preparation to the workforce.  If you develop the attitude of being late in attending class, late in submitting papers, late in going to mtgs or seminars, most likely, you will bring this all your life. Go to school early. Masarap maging maaga sa classroom.  Ang hirap nung pawis na pawis at hinihingal kang aakyat ng bldg. Toxic yun! 

9.  READ - Read homeworks before you pass them. Do not just google, copy, paste, print and pass. Susko, when I was a teacher, merong magpapasa ng may hyperlink pa! Gggggrrrrr!!!!
Read bulletin board announcements, maki tsismis sa school newspaper, feed your mind with novels. Instead na tumulala ka sa bus, READ! 

10.  SAY "EXCUSE ME", "THANK YOU", AND "SORRY"- This is not only for your teachers but also for your classmates, schoolmates and ates and kuyas in the university 

11.  DO NOT MEET UP WITH A PROFESSOR/GO TO THE FACULTY ROOM ALONE - For safety reasons, always have a buddy. Do not visit teachers alone. If they insist, go to the Dean.

12.  HAVE A TRUSTED PERSON - Find a "nanay" in the campus. You could always find a mentor. This could be your old professor, organization adviser, guidance counselor. When problems happen, go to them.  

 13.  HAVE SPARE COINS - You need this for photocopy, photocopy and photocopy 

14. HIDE MONEY, GADGETS, CELLPHONE - Maraming magnanakaw sa classroom, school at bus. Another thing, when using earphones, make sure not to insert plugs in both ears. Baka masasagasaan ka na, hindi mo pa alam! 

15.  BRING YOUR ID - If you forget, admit it. Don't you dare borrow from classmates. 

16. HOLD ON TO YOUR FAITH AND VALUES - You will enjoy college more if you do the right things. Clean fun and jologs adventures are better than the ones that would ruin you. 

17. FOCUS ON YOUR STUDIES- why are you in  the school? To STUDY - Opportunities will come in different directions. Do not spread yourself to thin. What you do now will land on your resume. Get good grades because this will be your armor when you get a job.  Again... Why are you in school? Para mag-aral diba? This could be the last 4 years of your academic life. Make the most of it. 

18.  LEARN ON YOUR OWN -  Do not expect your teacher to tell you everything.  College ka na. When you do not know, ask and read.

19.  DO NOT BE ABSENT - Hindi na uso excuse letter. Be responsible of what you will miss. Goodbye special exams, quizzes and projects. 

20.  FOCUS ON YOUR LONG TERM GOALS -  Avoid "trying things" unless you see yourself doing it for a long time.  Do not join a club just to see how it feels like.  Join and be committed to things that you see yourself doing even after college.  Sayang ang time and effort to things that won't really help you at the end.  I mean, why will you join the Taekwondo Team if you really want to swim?  And oh, you don't have to do what your barkada is doing.  In college, it is okay/normal to have your own mind.

21.  SHINE FOR GOD- Let your light shine before God. Follow rules. Do not lie. Do not cut classes just because. Do your best. Be a testimomy.

All in all, college is a jungle. Be with the crowd who will not feed you to the lions. 
At the end of the day, these people will not help you pass your subjects, assist you to get a degree, mentor you to land a job and make you succesful. It will be you.  Have fun you guys! :)

M&S: Matt and Sarah's Wedding

My high school and school bus friend got married yesterday!! This was not only special because I knew Matt since I was 14 but also coz Sarah, his wife by now, became my friend when they got together. In our "circle", we are all married na! Meaning, no one will get left behind when we start talking about SPG stories!! haha I hosted the event together with Krystal, my emcee partner in ICA for 5 years --- na miss ko to!!! So happy pa that I got to fix myself, wear heels and be on a date with my hawt husband!





Since I was an emcee nga, our calltime was at 1pm. This was a bonus coz I had a chance to peep in the venue. Here take a peek too.

  




Love love love the details and the one million origamis! Yes, exagg but ang dami kasi talaga nila ;)

One thing that I look forward in weddings are the marches of the groom and bride. Matt and Sarah's walks were opposites. In the mid of his march, Matt raised his two hands and shouted "wuhoo", while Sarah was quiet. And according to Bry, who was one of the hawi boys ng curtain , ang lalim daw ng hinga ni Sarah.... ;)




My next fave part! The vows...I managed to type some excerpt. Here it goes.

MATT: He has favored and bless me with you...then he sang a few lines from ikaw.. clap to Matt na ndi nasintunado!!! 

sarah: ...God's plan is good and that plan includes you. Thank you for being all that you are. I commit to love you unconditionally and submit to your headship

Yehey for personally written vows :)

The wedding of Matt and Sarah is the smallest I have attended to. They have 65 guests, and you know what? It was lovely:) Twas so intimate that we had the chance to have a group pic -- all the 65 of us!

After the ceremony, the programme was filled with songs and dances. Sarah's dad  and Sarah danced slow then goofed to a cha-cha song c/o eat bulaga/rizza mae. Speeches were made next. I love Drew's speech to his brother! He was like "....akala ko saging lang ang may puso, si kuya pala may puso din" hahahaha 

Haaaay!! Matt and Sarah, congrats again. Welcome to the blissfull and crazy wagon of marriage! Dinner soonest :)


PS.
musta first night? lol