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Showing posts with label wedding. Show all posts

WAIT!! DO NOT GET MARRIED YET!

Yes, you are hearing this from someone who has been enjoying marriage for almost three years now.  I guess, this is the main reason why I am "warning" those who want to get married to consider the following below.  We have seen how a marriage could be ugly if done carelessly. It can be disappointing if you just jump on it. In many of our intentional talks about our relationship, we have seen how it really takes two  three (God plus us) to run this commitement.

1.  If you are a believer and follower of Jesus, marry someone of the same faith.  I have heard girls (and some boys) say that "okay lang, kasi mabait at responsible naman".  Let me tell you straight that in many decisions that you will make as a husband and wife, you do not need a man who is only kind and responsible.  Go, ask christian couples.  See what they have to say.  I am sure they would tell you that you need a man who will solely rely on God and His direction for your lives. I hope the hand you are holding now is the kind of hands who open up the Bible and commune with God thru prayer.  Because again, hindi pwedeng mabait lang.  Let me convince you more.  Read this

2.  Consider having your own home/apartment first.  Leave and cleave.  Allow your husband to be a leader or your wife to be a real homemaker.  After all, marriage is all about to having your own family so let it be.  It feels good to play "lutu-lutuan" and "bahay-bahayan" with the person you married.  Money may be an issue here, with that, go back to my title - "Wait!! Do Not Get Married Yet!".  To add read up on what Maricar Reyes has to say (wife to Ricahrd Poon) on this.

3.  Be sure to keep an "after wedding money".  A lot of people have told me to never borrow money (loan, use credit card, ask for money, etc) for a wedding because it is not good to start a new life with utang.  I agree with this, plus, to make sure to not spend all your savings for the wedding.  The married life is more important than the event that will only happen for a day. It would be nice if you could follow-up a wedding with spontaneous dates, staycations or even family visits.  Remember that a wedding should not make you broke.  It needs not be expensive.  You can always DIY, invite the closests, be a minimalist and creative.

second night as a married couple in Estancia Tagaytay

4.  Plan a honeymoon.  The first thing that we paid for was our plane ticket to Bangkok and Phuket.  We do not have anything yet but we already had bookings for honeymoon (which I am very glad we did).  Yes, we were that excited! I guess that for a couple who decided to wait (our first kiss was at the altar), this is something that is really cherished and looked forward too.  Our seven day honeymoon plus a long vacation was so worth the wait.  I hope you will choose to really enjoy your honeymoon too.







5. Having a baby can be "accepted" but it should not be a reason to get married.  I do not know how to put this without being too direct.  Just make sure you are doing it for the right reasons.  A baby does not only need parents.  He would want a mother and a father who loves each other as well.

6.  Talk about it.  Do not just discuss it between the two of you but have someone guide you, ask you difficult questions, mentor you and show you what marriage is all about.  Yes, marriage is different from every couple, but it would not hurt to get wisdom from the seasoned ones.  It will helpful to see what could be difficult and answer it with all honesty because one way or another, you will have to deal with it in the future. 

7.  Marry for the right reasons.  Not because you want to escape from responsibilities, not because you want to be away from home, not because to have a family (because what if God won't give you kids?), not because you are already old, not because of financial freedon, not because of convenience.  Get married because you have chosen to love and will choose to love the same person for a lifetime and lastly and most importantly, because it is clear that this is what God wants you to be and do.


(some of our) WEDDING SUPPLIERS




** The list below is in alphabetical order.  You may message me for the rates.

      Coordinator- RHED EVENTS – We originally wanted Darlene of Perfect 10 Weddings (saw her work in two weddings and she was just flawless), apparently, she went on hiatus to focus on her family more.  We were hopeless because we know that coordinators can either make or break a wedding.  Pag palpak ang Coor mo, palpak ang wedding mo.  We went from one team to another, and yet, we still can’t figure who the best team would be.  Good thing, someone dropped the name RHED SARMIENTO.  I and my Maid-of-Honor spied on her FB account and got impressed.  When I spoke with her, I knew she will be good.  We booked her and were not disappointed at all.

We sat with her thrice (first meet up, venue visit and final dits).  We saw and felt that she knew what she was doing.  On the wedding day, we further witnessed how efficient and dedicated she and her entire team was.  We and our families were so relaxed.  We just felt like playing dress-up. They also made sure that everyone was ready and prompt.  We did not have to think of anything/anyone else –She did all this for us.  So if you want a stress/hassle free wedding – GET HER! (I am speaking in behalf of a bride na nagtitipid na OC and Theater Arts major)

View her page here

Caterer – QUEENSLAND – I have known and tasted Queensland since I was young and I do not remember having any qualms about them.  Titas, friends and neighbors also attested to the taste and affordability they bring.  Bryan has yet to be impressed so we sat down for food tasting – and as I was sure – he liked, loved it. 

I     I  suggest Queensland for those who want good food that comes with a cheap cost. Just do not be carried away with their grand set-up (we chose the simplest one).  We had plastic chairs covered in white cloth and tables with white cloth as well with olive green runners.  We did not opt for the one with a lot of skirting and ribbons on the chairs because it could look stocky.

       Another tip is, when giving tips (yes, tips), make sure it goes to the right person (head waiter).  Or I suggest, announce it to everyone that you gave a tip and the tip is for each one of them.  Since Queensland does a lot of events in a day, some waiters are not monitored ethically.  BUT, then again, when it comes to service, food handling, taste and cost – we had zero problems from Queensland. 


           Gowns – ATE DIANA – I was so sure that I won’t get a gown designer so I knew I had to get a magaling na mananahi.  Thank God for my Subject Head in ICA, I met Ate Diana in her little home turned tahian.  I brought her the pictures of the wedding gown and the pretty dresses we wanted for the entourage.  She was able to execute it perfectly  (moms, MOH, secondary sponsors, flower girls).  For those who want a Divisoria rate but a very professional outcome, message me, and I will bring you to her! 

       Make-up – CHALK – This was the last thing we booked. First, I do not like putting on make-ups (no make-up during pre-nup for me), second trial make-ups are expensive and trial make-ups on wedding expos mean long lines.  With this scenario and having had 3 trial make-ups, I decided to get a friend who always does my make-up.  However, weeks before the wedding, his schedule got tighter and we both knew I had to get another.  I mentioned this confusion to my coordinator so she suggested a make-up artist she works with.  No trial, no meet-ups, I said “yes”…Although I can say trials are still important, but let me say, I and my entourage won BIG TIME with Chalk and his assistant! 


      Photographer - CATILO PHOTOGRAPHY- I have not met Bryan yet, but I was already sure of who to get as photographers.  Yes, ganyan ako ka-believe sa kanila.  When we were finalizing our suppliers, one of our rules is to NOT get people whom we are friends with.  We made an exemption for the Catilos here (I have known Sheila and her fam since high school) because I believe in what they can deliver pre, during and post photoshoot.  And man, I was not wrong. GALING!  What we like about them is that they did not ask us to pose.  We just have to be ourselves, and voila – awesome shots!! As what as I have been bragging about, our pictures our very candid, natural and us.  They were able to capture our moments and the every story behind it.   Just google Catilo Photography and you will never get lost.. :)

       Rings - SUAREZ - Bryan was so sure of this from the very beginning.  Suarez have been in the industry for years and the older generation can attest of their quality and value.  Actually, he also got be Suarez when he proposed.  I did not question Bry about this.   I did not know anything about jewelry din naman eh!haha

      Wedding Cupcakes – DAVID’S CUPCAKES – Ian is a full time mom, baker and art teacher.  Perfect combination di’ba? Since we wanted very simple cupcakes, we thought that it should be the tastiest and cheap.  Kasi db? Simple na nga tapos hindi pa masarap? Good thing, we had a chance to sample Ian’s cupcakes twice.  We attended a debut and a wedding and we were pleased on how they were delivered, presented and TASTED.  Yum, indeed! – Even our guests loved it.  Check out her yummy cupcakes! click now!