20 THINGS I WANT TO TELL ENGAGED WOMEN by Joy Forney


1. Marriage is made up of two good forgivers. Because every marriage is made up of two sinners. (Romans 3:23)
2. At some point, you will have to learn that life isn’t all about you. (Philippians 2:3)
3. Don’t listen to women that tell you that passion fades…it doesn’t have to! (um…all of Song of Solomon)
4. Don’t give up. Love never fails. (1 Cor. 13)
5. He wants a kind wife, not a maid or another mother. Be nice. (Galatians 5:22-23)
6. Give your husband the gift of your respect.  He needs it more than you know. (Ephesians 5:33)
7. Be mindful of your expectations.
8. Honor the Lord above all things. Colossians 3: 17
9. Find your worth and security in the Lord, and don’t look to your husband to meet all of your needs.
10. Be very careful about reading romance novels, they set you up for an unrealistic view of romance.
11. Real romance is finding that one spot in the crook of his arm to snuggle into, that shared look over the dinner table when the kids are acting crazy, and the way he fixes the leaky sink when he is dog-tired after work.
12. Love is about relationship.  The more I love my husband, and seek a relationship with him, the less critical and duty-bound I become.  It is similar to my relationship with God.
13. Be thankful for the husband you have. Accept him as he is, not for what you want him to be.
14. Don’t compare!! Don’t buy into the game of comparing him with anyone else’s husband.
15.The Biblically “normal” marriage is filled with joy, connection, laughter, and peace.  It’s not free of hurt feelings and conflict, but they know how to process their pain with one another so that they live more often in a meadow than at the scene of a train wreck.  This is not the average marriage, but it normal – -because it is a visible display of Jesus’ relationship with His bride (Ephesians 5:22-33).
16. Your marriage is a testimony! 
17. Pray for your marriage. Pray hard.
18.I’ve heard that is gets better with age.  I have to say in my short {13 year} experience, that is so true.
19. Where there is God, there is always hope. Even for the most broken marriages. “With God all things are possible.” (Matthew 19:26)
20.Marriage is commitment and sacrifice. But it’s also the best, most wild ride you will ever have with your best friend.
Text by Joy Forney of Grace Full Mama.
First seen in patty's blog page

SEVEN



**originally witten last May 2012

Lucky seven? -- BLESSED seven for me. 

I am blessed NOT because I am getting married but because I am getting married to Bryan Eli



Warning:  Bawal sabihin kay Bry.  Baka masyadong syang matuwa! :P

Julia Stiles meets Shakespeare

We rarely discussed sonnets in high school so I was not able to develop interest in it.  It was in college that I enjoyed reading (and memorizing) these well thought lines.  Fine, it was not an instant admiration but was more of the “pressure” to be fond of sonnets because I was a Theater student and was specializing in English.  I sensed it should be “matic” to appreciate all forms of literature because I will be teaching it (it is difficult to teach something that you don’t love).   In short, I forced myself to like sonnets.  After a sem or two, I finally grew much curiosity. - Yey! I can finally teach it with conviction.

I want to share the first sonnet I found touching.  I felt it since I was able to relate it to a poem of one of my favorite films (I think the scriptwriter meant it this way) .  I hope that this type of poetry does not make you feel intimidated at all (especially the teachers), because sonnets are just really wonderful (and remember, you will be teaching it!:P). These 14 liner poems can captivate one’s soul.  Trust me! :)

Buuuutttt, just in case you find sonnets threatening, let me help you.  What I want you to do is read the first poem below then continue with the sonnet.  These two literature pieces are related.  You will never go wrong.  There you go, start reading (aloud), then tell me what you think. 
 
 10 Things I Hate About You 
(from the film with the same title)

I hate the way you talk to me,
 and the way you cut your hair.

I hate the way you drive my car,
I hate it when you stare.
I hate your big dumb combat boots
and the way you read my mind.
I hate you so much it makes me sick,
it even makes me rhyme.
I hate the way you’re always right,
I hate it when you lie.
I hate it when you make me laugh,
even worse when you make me cry.
I hate it when you’re not around,
and the fact that you didn’t call.
But mostly I hate the way I don’t hate you,
not even close…
not even a little bit…
not even at all.



SONNET 141
By: Shakespeare

In faith I do not love thee with mine eyes, 
For they in thee a thousand errors note;
But 'tis my heart that loves what they despise,Who, in despite of view, is pleased to dote.
Nor are mine ears with thy tongue's tune delighted;
Nor tender feeling, to base touches prone,
Nor taste, nor smell, desire to be invited
To any sensual feast with thee alone:
But my five wits nor my five senses can
Dissuade one foolish heart from serving thee,
Who leaves unswayed the likeness of a man,
Thy proud heart's slave and vassal wretch to be:
Only my plague thus far I count my gain,
That she that makes me sin awards me pain.





fell in love with Heath at this film too (I miss him...)




QUICK FIX COFFEE CUPS


Inay (lola, ma’s side) introduced me to coffee.  During summer, when I was around 4 or 5 years old, I remember slowly going down the stairs and heading directly to the kitchen.   Inay’s kitchen leads to the batalan (an open dirty kitchen) where Ama, is busily sharpening his bolo while cooking coffee and Inay is steaming rice.  While still half awake, I would sit on an overused bangko  (wooden bench) and smell the aroma of the boiling coffee.

Ama, would look at me and ask why I woke up so early.  I would just look at him and half smile (shy and still sleepy).   Inay then will offer coffee straight from the pot.  I blew and gradually sipped until I finish the whole cup. 

Brewed coffee with sugar for a 5 year old on a provincial morning.  Epic.

Who would have told that starting college, this would be a part of my morning routine?  Every morning, I would half awake make myself a cup of coffee (fine, minsan si Mama hahaha).  No pots for me though, just my handy coffee maker.  No matter what my day is like, I need my freshly brewed cup of coffee.

If I do not get coffee, I would get a terrible headache. I don’t know if this is psychological or scientific, but I just really need a fresh cup of it – everyday.  Aside from this, I love the bitter-sweet taste of coffee (no creamer for me).  Just thinking about it, makes me want a cup now. 

In the celebration of this coffee blog, let me share to you my fave QUICK FIX coffee brands.  Meaning, IF I am on the run, any of these coffee names would be my first to get.. :)


6.  KOPICCINO (of Kopiko) - This is my latest 3 in 1 discovery (Thanks to Marian Pasicolan, another 3 in 1 explorer).  Since it is sweet and creamy, I wouldn't have it everyday, but will definitely have it on a rainy, lazy afternoon.  What I LOVE about this 10 peso 3 in 1 sachet is the stash of chocolate powder that you can pour after stirring your cup.  What an instant beauty to your cheap cup of coffee! :)

5.  MCDONALD'S - I still trust Mcdo.  Just make sure the lid is placed properly.  I always lift the lid to make it in won't come off.  Mcdo is extra special because of the convenience they give to drivers. Drive-thru lang, may coffee ka na!  They come in small (29 php) and big sizes and (39 php) .



4.  STARBUCKS - Need I say more?  I usually get Cafe Misto, extra hot, grande.  



3.  DUNKIN DONUTS - I love their coffee!  I rediscovered this cup when I taught in Adamson.  I would leisurely pass by their store before I go to class.  Perfect fix for a start-up! :)  Sold at 35 php.


2.  KOPIKO ASTIG - Winner!  I always have a sachet of this at work, at home, and sometimes, in my bag!  cheap (5 php srp) + strong + available anywhere = winner 3 in 1 coffee





1.  COUNTRY STYLE - Fine, not that available BUT is is really good.  They also offer different flavors (my fave is almond) and refillable cups.  I think 39 php is okay for a perfect cup, fastfood type brand of brewed coffee.











BROWN BAGS AND GOD'S SENSE OF HUMOR


When I was around 6, I hoped to go to the United States. I would daydream about this as I watched Doogie Howser M.D and Small Wonder at night.  I remember literally asking Mama how I can go.   She would just then smile at me and ask “why”.  With much gusto, I would say “kasi gusto ko ng  brown bag na may maraming maraming grocery, tas mahirap dalahin kasi ang dami dami kong binili”.  Oh yes, at an early age, the grocery (with the brown bag) is already my favorite place in the world.    

Anyway, my “American dream” did not take place (as of 2012), but the buying of cartons of milk and boxes of cereals happened plusssss THEY PLACED IT IN A BROWN PAPER GROCERY BAG!!! YEHEY!!!

Thanks Maan for capturing this JOYOUS moment.  
Thanks to the Mayor of Muntinlupa, Aldrin San Pedro and his officials, our city has been “anti plastic bags” for (I think) 2 years now.  When I first heard this, I was just glad that we are more “environment friendly”-- I did not realize that this would be God’s way of answering my childhood dream.  God made me really laugh when I went to Shopwise, bought supplies and clutched 3 big brown paper bags.  I was all smiles when I carried the brown bags to the parking lot.  Bonus points was when I cannot find my car keys and I had to place one bag on the hood my car.  I WAS AMERICAN for 2 minutes!!! Wuhoooo!  hahahahaha

This may just be a simple “dream” but God made it happen.  Not to forget, that God made me laugh.  Siguro, He was like, “Sige, gawin na nating anti-plastic ang Muntinlupa (first in the whole NCR) para sa pangarap ni Mico”….Hay Lord, I just so love your sense of humor. .. J

 On a serious note, If He took the effort to arrange this tiny dream for me, He would of course take time to give the hopes I have been desiring and praying about.   It may not be the exact answer (no US visa for me) but it is still a response!  (which is apparently better -- more fun in the Philippines diba?)  Don’t you see how thoughtful (and fun) our God is?


Matthew 6:26 "Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they?

EIGHT


** originally written last April 2012


It was exactly 8 months before the wedding when I stepped on Bryan’s birthplace and hometown (which was not planned at all).  When we were booking, we focused the days rather than the dates, so we were really surprise to realize this.  What a perfect and lovely timing!

Looking back on this trip, I thank God on how he allowed me to see the other side of my husband to be.  Seeing the house he grew up in, meeting his Nana, relatives and church family, dining at their table with his parents and meeting the food and places he enjoyed as a kid made know him more.  Nakakaaliw.  I am beyond happy how our trip went. 

One more reason that made this trip special was when we had time to sit down and talk about our wedding plans to the people closest to him.  It was heart warming to hear him talk about our wedding and marriage preps.  I can’t help but thank God in my mind that the man I love is talking about “us” to the people significant to him.  It was a different kind of feeling being introduced as his wife-to-be.  Nakaka-conscious na nakakatuwa.  Ah basta. :)

Aside from this, my visit to Ilocos was also an evidence of God’s answers to our prayers.  I felt this truly when we spent one late afternoon by the beach.  This place has been abused by Bryan in his stories and I have been imagining it in my head for the longest time—and finally, I was stepping on it.  I was reminded of God’s faithfulness to me, to us and to our relationship.  We were just dreaming and praying about my trip to Paoay before, and it actually happened.    

It will probably be eight more months till I will see Paoay again.  Pero sige lang.  God willing, when that time happens, I will be re-introduced with another “title”…And I am sure, that would bring me to another world of happiness and thrill.