M&S: Matt and Sarah's Wedding

My high school and school bus friend got married yesterday!! This was not only special because I knew Matt since I was 14 but also coz Sarah, his wife by now, became my friend when they got together. In our "circle", we are all married na! Meaning, no one will get left behind when we start talking about SPG stories!! haha I hosted the event together with Krystal, my emcee partner in ICA for 5 years --- na miss ko to!!! So happy pa that I got to fix myself, wear heels and be on a date with my hawt husband!





Since I was an emcee nga, our calltime was at 1pm. This was a bonus coz I had a chance to peep in the venue. Here take a peek too.

  




Love love love the details and the one million origamis! Yes, exagg but ang dami kasi talaga nila ;)

One thing that I look forward in weddings are the marches of the groom and bride. Matt and Sarah's walks were opposites. In the mid of his march, Matt raised his two hands and shouted "wuhoo", while Sarah was quiet. And according to Bry, who was one of the hawi boys ng curtain , ang lalim daw ng hinga ni Sarah.... ;)




My next fave part! The vows...I managed to type some excerpt. Here it goes.

MATT: He has favored and bless me with you...then he sang a few lines from ikaw.. clap to Matt na ndi nasintunado!!! 

sarah: ...God's plan is good and that plan includes you. Thank you for being all that you are. I commit to love you unconditionally and submit to your headship

Yehey for personally written vows :)

The wedding of Matt and Sarah is the smallest I have attended to. They have 65 guests, and you know what? It was lovely:) Twas so intimate that we had the chance to have a group pic -- all the 65 of us!

After the ceremony, the programme was filled with songs and dances. Sarah's dad  and Sarah danced slow then goofed to a cha-cha song c/o eat bulaga/rizza mae. Speeches were made next. I love Drew's speech to his brother! He was like "....akala ko saging lang ang may puso, si kuya pala may puso din" hahahaha 

Haaaay!! Matt and Sarah, congrats again. Welcome to the blissfull and crazy wagon of marriage! Dinner soonest :)


PS.
musta first night? lol

FOUR Rs: A Guide to Choosing the "Right" Person

Last Febuary 14, 2014, we got up at 6am and headed to Cafe Breton for a hearty breakfast.  After this, I had my mani and pedi and Bryan had his haircut.  Though this was already a great way to spend Feb 14, we knew something bigger will happen.  That night, we had a chance to share how God moved in our lives through our love story.  A perfect time to share how God authored us.  And since we outlined our testimony, I decided to turn it into a blog. Read on.

**These thoughts and beliefs are in the context of being a born-again christian.  Examples used were also intended for HS and college students.

RIGHT MOTIVE

·         Ready to get married
·         Are you courting her because you need a gf? To show that you have a gf?
·         Have you ever prayed for it?
·         Did you ever pray for a lifetime partner even before you met her?
·         Did you ever ask God to direct you – as to whom to court. 
    
       If your reasons are because you feel lonely and incomplete, bala wala ng dumating, crush ko sya, magulo sa bahay ng parents ko, and kinikilig ako pag kasama ko sya, you might need to think things over.

RIGHT PLACE

·         any place is appropriate as long as the intention is not to hide.  In short, kahit saan basta hindi patago.

RIGHT TIME

·         Ready to make Mico my next priority after God.  After God, si Mico na.  Not my studies,       not my work, not my parents.

·         Assessed myself first
-          Ability to lead
-          Ability to support/sustain a family (has savings, stable income)
-          Ability to make firm decisions
-          Ability to be responsible for someone/family

·         Can fulfill ….
-          God’s plan for married people
-          words, dreams and promises into reality and actions.  It was NOT, balang araw papakasalan kita.  It was more of, liligawan kita kasi kaya at gusto na na kitang pakasalan.

·         You know it is the right time when you do not have to ask if it is the right time

·         Supported by family, friends and churchmates

      We both do not have issues (of the past and present). We are not moving on, kaka break lang, incomplete.

RIGHT PERSON – How did I know it was Bryan?

·         Got to know myself first
-          Comes with age and experience
·         Aware and firm with my non-negotiables
a.    Matured Christian
b.    Not an OFW - because I am not good with long distance relationship
c.    Will move out from his parents
d.    Not a Pastor - because I know I do not want and could not be a Pastor's wife
e.    Ready to get married
f.     Out-going

·         Ready for a clear and announced status
-          NOT “it is complicated”
-          NOT “special friends”
-          NOT “friends pero may kilig at malisya”
-          NOT “mutual understanding”
-          NOT “dedma sa personal pero super close sa FB, Instagram at Twitter”
-          NOT “kuya or ate”
-           
…status should be
-          Nanliligaw sya at nagpapaligaw ako
-          Bf ko sya, gf nya ako
-          Engaged
-          Considering each other for marriage

·         I knew it was him because I did not have to ask

·         He can make me follow

   KEY VERSES:

1 Corinthians 6:12
Everything is permissible but not everything is necessary
Ecclesiastes 3:1-8
 For everything there is a season,
    a time for every activity under heaven.
A time to be born and a time to die.
    A time to plant and a time to harvest.
A time to kill and a time to heal.
    A time to tear down and a time to build up.
A time to cry and a time to laugh.
    A time to grieve and a time to dance.
A time to scatter stones and a time to gather stones.
    A time to embrace and a time to turn away.
A time to search and a time to quit searching.
    A time to keep and a time to throw away.
A time to tear and a time to mend.
    A time to be quiet and a time to speak.
A time to love and a time to hate.
    A time for war and a time for peace

Genesis 2:23-25
This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.
Ephesians 5:33
However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.

1 Peter 3:7
Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered.

1 Corinthians 6:12
Do not be deceived:  Bad company corrupts good morals

2 Corinthians 6:14-15
Do not be bound together with unbelievers; for what partnership have righteousness and lawlessness, or what fellowship has light with darkness? Or what harmony has Christ with Belial, or what has a believer in common with an unbeliever?

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13 SIGNS THAT YOU HAVE TO CALL IT QUITS (boyfriend/girlfriend edition)

1.  You started with a lie.  Either you lied to the people around you or to each other.

2.  You do not have the intention of marrying the person you are with.  

3.  The people around you are all questioning your togetherness.  Your family, your closest friends, and sometimes, even yourself.

4.  You hide what you have.  

5.  Your relationship is a never ending struggle of "we need to fix this".

6.  When people ask how your relationship is, you start crying.

7.  Your mother tells you she or he is not right for you.

8.  When you weigh if you should break-up with him or her.  You should not be thinking of this in the first place.

9.  You do not glow.  Ang pangit mo na.

10.  You stopped talking about the good times with him or her.  You always talk about the problems you have instead.

11.  In the midst of your quarrel, he or she also stops being kind.

12.  When the only reason you have is because you love him.  Love my dear is NOT enough.

13.  When you know you just have to.  Trust me, alam mo yan!














Stages of Grief - In the Context of Moving-On From a Romantic Relationship

Have you ever been in a serious romantic relationship that ended sourly? If yes, you have also probably gone to the phase of getting over the person you were with.  Regardless of age, personality, educational attainment, and religious belief, people mourn when something tragic happens to them.  Individuals may just have different ways and timetable on how they will be back to their happy selves, but, there is a common denominator on the stages they will go through. Persons in this situation may not notice this universal factor but when taken closely, there is a general pattern of emotions with the people moving on.

According to psychologists, grief is the feeling someone experiences when he loses someone or something important to him.  It is also considered as an overwhelming emotion of a person which causes him deep sorrow.  With this definition, we can conclude that individuals whose relationships stopped in a bad note are very much prone to grief.

Among the stages of grief, the first phase is denial.  This is when the individual feels that the bond between him and his loved one is not yet over.  In this phase, it is possible that one or both parties may still communicate and talk about their separation over and over.  If it is the man who broke up with the woman, she is prone to asking the man several times on why he decided to end what they have.  If no communication is made at this stage, the couple may feel that nothing awful happened between them.  They may not cry nor react negatively in their state.  Another potential reaction is to feel okay and maybe to sense that they have already moved-on.

The second stage is anger.  One famous cause of broken relationships is betrayal. If this is the root of the problem, this is the time when the victim will feel mad to his partner.  If the people involved were just casualties of situations and their personality differences, they are expected to hate themselves.  They could think that it was their fault why their love ended and that they did not do anything good in their situation.  Some may go extreme by hating men or women and even the world they are in.  They may think that life is unfair.

After this stage, bargaining would come in. This is considered as the weakest part of heartache.  One may seek rescue from friends, legal affairs, or even from the people they were with.  Since the persons involved are extra vulnerable at this phase, they would have a lot of questions on why it occurred and why it happened to them.  There are also a lot of “ifs” in this leg, such as, “If only I was prettier..”, “If only I had a stable work and was able to provide…”  “If only his mother liked me…”, etc. 

The second to the last stage is depression.  This is when sadness and regret comes in.  Women possibly will choose not to go out and socialize and men may turn to alcohol.  Aside from this, people involved may perhaps feel tired and sickly.  They could once again cry and get stressed over little things.  However, since this is a familiar feeling and people know that the opposite of sadness is happiness, those who are in this stage easily find ways on how they can be joyful again.

The last stage of grief is acceptance.  Do not get fooled because acceptance may not mean cheerfulness.  This may simply mean that the persons involved are contented and at peace with their situation.  They no longer feel a strong negative emotion.  This last stage is also considered as the time when calmness is welcomed and withdrawal from habits brought about by depression is started.

In this world, it is typical for people to fall in love, be committed and get married.  At the same time, it is also normal for them to get hurt, fall out of love, and leave the person they were with.  Among all the natural occurrences in relationships, moving on is a part of it.  Some may be ready to have relationships again in 2 weeks, some will wait it out more, and maybe some would even just accept what happened and never commit themselves in relationships again.  In the midst of all this, it is good to know that no matter how negative we feel about ourselves, our lost love and our personal space – every bit of it is normal.  It is expected and perhaps it is even a must.
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