Last week, I had the pleasure of speaking in front of the parents of Saint Bernadette School of Alabang during their Parent Teacher Conference.  I was given the liberty to choose a topic which I thought will be “easier” on my side. However, as I was thinking, reading, and researching on the possible subjects that seasoned moms would like to hear from a new mother like me, I panicked a little.

Good thing, our tiny library at home was reliable enough for tasks like this.  I took the book “Raising Achievers” by Nita Weis and began to examine.  The text gave brilliant tips on how parents can help their kids be go-getters.  It also focused on research and answers to common problems faced by mothers and fathers.  On the other hand, since I also believe in the idea of learning process, I tweaked the ideas I got.  This little change gave me the chance to also make it more applicable to Filipino parents, the Philippine curriculum for education and the familiar lifestyle of our students.

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Allow me share to you a part of my outline.

The first picture is our common view of success.  However, let me ruin your thoughts because the second picture is a more realistic image of what success is really  all about. Just like in business, we sometimes do good, at times we fail. Therefore, we should aim for competence, confidence and attitude.

How can parents help their children to be long-term achievers?

1.  Set a habit of learning to your child
      - Introduce learning as a fun activity.  No shouting.  No spanking. No crying. No pressure.
      - Ask your child to write down his daily routine. Check together what he is over doing or missing
      - Softly point out that his main responsibility is his studies.

2.  Have learning activities during vacation
      - Do not break the routine of learning and reading.  It takes 30 days to create and lose a habit.
      - Make holidays productive.  

3.  Instead of punishments, give rewards

4.  If they have tutors, set time when to let them go

5.  Be wise in analyzing the actions/problems of your child.  It could be..
     - Attitude problem: Does he disobey all your instructions or just the studying part? If he does              not obey you in other circumstances, the issue is NOT studies but obedience to parents 
     - School problem: Bullying, too tired from school work, can't follow his teachers' discussion, peer         pressure, etc
     - Biologocal problem:  Blurry eyes, ear problem, etc
     - Special needs:  Dyslexia, ADHD, slow learner, etc

6.  Give your child responsibilities and do not take them out of it when they feel tired, lazy or because      they just want to quit.

7.  Communicate with your child.  Value their reasons.  Make time.

Should you be interested in learning more about this topic, email me at mico.sadorra@gmail.com or leave a comment below.

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