I was checking out Facebook when I saw an article that suggests that a husband should be treated like a best friend.  I must say I was not convinced.

I believe that the best way to treat a husband is to treat him like a husband.

I am not a marriage expert nor a woman who has been married for a long time, but  I want to acknowledge God, who by the way, initiated marriage.  Therefore, He also has the say of how it should be.  Marriage has a very wonderful and unique design and it could only be at its best if couples will follow God’s blueprint. 

What is the basic plan?

Husbands, love your wife.  Wives, respect and submit to your husbands. 

Obviously, this is not how we treat our best buddies.  Why?  Because again, marriage is so special that God has designed an exceptional plan to make it work beautifully. 

Day to day, I strive to be the best wife to Bryan and day to day I falter. Nonetheless, instead of losing hope and being a mediocre wife, I cling on to God's grace because He alone can sustain me.  

What do I do?  I make sure I don't treat him like a friend because if that would be the case, I would not be intentional in serving, loving and submitting to him.  That would also mean taking him for granted and hoping that we can easilly re-connect, as if nothing has changed. And also that would mean getting mad at him and not doing anything about it because I know we would make peace in a few days.  

Yes, I think you can be friends with your hubsters, but may consider treating him like a husband first, then the rest of the "relationship types" can follow.

What do you think?  Maybe the video can also help 


This is in connection of my previous post -- on how I felt so ugly a day before I turned 35.  Just so I can help myself, I am blogging about practical ways on how not to be losyang.  Here it goes:

1.  Always wear bra (even at home).  Keep those girls up.

2.  Either have a short hair that you can easily maintain or have your locks long so you can put 'em up on a messy bun.  I am discouraging the chin length (alanganin) cut.  It is so hard to prettify.  

3.  (At least) Wear BB cream, curl lashes and put on blush and lippie when going to the mall.  For those with not so perfect skin (like me), we need to do a bit of covering up.  However, for those with perfect skin (yung mga pinanganak na walang pores, buti pa kayo!! hahaha), powder would do.

4.  For daily regimen, anti-aging and eye cream plus sunblock are a must starting 30 years old.  I am using Celeteque for my eyes.  I will let you know if it works after 2 weeks.

5.  If you are not comfortable with your weight, burn fat.  If you are, yey!!

6.  Be fashionable or have the classic look.  Just make sure it suits your age.  

There.  I plan to work on this in the coming days.  Wich me luck (esp with numner 3)!  


I was carrying a cranky Risen and a bag on each shoulder at Alabang Town Center yesterday. I was deliberately trying not to perspire as I walked from Payless to the parking lot near the church.  It was the longest walk I had with Risen so far.  He was crying, the straps of the bags were falling, and sweat were all over my face --- I could not even wipe it.  I felt so ugly.

Since yesterday was also the day before I turn 35 (I was sooooo emotional), and because I was also in disbelief that I am five years away of being 40, plus the hair that I could only manage with a blow dry,  not to mention the unfashionable dress I was in, I sure felt ugly.

I am the ugly Momma!

Finally, I had the hug I have been waiting all day from Bryan.  I did not feel like crying anymore but I still felt ugly.

I wanted to tell myself it is normal to feel ugly in many occasions, however, I did not want to because I think it is a lame excuse to not "fix" myself.  I am a no-make-up girl and I have to admit I can leave the house straight from the shower but since I am 35 I don't think this would work for me anymore.  I have to be mindful of what I wear, put on powder and shades of pink on my face.

I can't be losyang at 35.  I just can't be!! huhuhuhuhu

So I promise to take care of myself.  To dress appropriately and be pretty.

I will make sure to not be losyang at 35.  I.just.have.to.not.be.

And if you are reading this and you also feel ugly, do something about it too, okay?  At our age, hindi na pwede ang mabait lang, dapat maganda din.  Bawal maging losyang! :)