10 THINGS YOU SHOULD STOP DOING TO YOUR WIFE

1.  You should stop spending without your wife knowing it
2.  You should stop comparing your wife to your mother, her mother, your ex, or any other lady
3.  You should stop giving her gifts for family’s use
4.  You should stop answering “okay lang (it’s okay)” when she asks you how your day went



5.  You should stop seeing your wife as only as the mother of your child
6.  You should stop watching your wife take a selfie; take a picture of her instead


7.  You should stop prohibiting your wife to talk; she normally does that.
8.  You should stop seeing date with your wife as expenditure.
9. You should stop starting a conversation with a complaint; instead, compliment your wife before     raising your concerns.
10.  You should stop telling her she has too much bags and shoes

10 THINGS YOU SHOULD STOP DOING TO YOUR HUSBAND

1.  You should stop saying "okay lang ako'  (I am okay) even if you are not

2.  You should stop making your husband wait long inside the car

3.  You should stop buying stuff behind your husband's back

4.  You should stop denying your husband with intimacy just because

5.  You should stop tweaking his decisions

6.  You should stop doubting his every move

7.  You should stop feeding him food straight from the can.  Igisa mo naman (saute it)




8. (If still together) You should stop seeing him as a sperm donor or just the "father of your children"

9.  You should stop criticizing his driving skills

10. You should stop imagining how your life would be if you married your first love or your ex or this guy

LET OUR WOMBS BE

Do you know the next question that comes after "When are you getting married?" it is the "O wala pa ba?" in other words, "Are you already pregnant?"

Sigh.

Whether this is out of concern, closeness or curiosity, one has to careful when inquiring.  This becomes detestable when people ask just because she is craving for green mangoes, in a dress (some would even feel the tummy gggrrrrr), got chubbier or she feels a bit sick.  I mean, buntis agad? Hindi ba pwedeng gutom or mainit lang?

I feel them because twice in my lifetime, Doctors told me I will never get pregnant.  I was so anxious on how I will say this the time Bryan was courting me.  When he told me, it was not an issue, and when during the pre-marital counselling we were able to really settle this, what I feared next was facing the questions of the people around us.  That was why, a tear fell when someone not really close to us asked us if there is already a baby in my tummy.  Mind you, we have only been married for like three weeks and it already shook me inside.

As months went by, and when I became pregnant, I noticed how everyone around me was celebrating.  However, I also noticed the asides (brief comment) of those who congratulated us.  Like "O, naunahan pa kayo nina Mico",  "Kelan naman kayo?", "naku sina Juan, hindi makabuo",  etc.  I feel bad for them because like them, I dreaded those comments.

It is at times hurtful to wait for pregnancy, and this becomes grotesque when people ask and comment as if we "make" them (remember that God is the giver of a child).  So please lang, stop asking and making distasteful reactions.  

What is even worse?  When...

1.  some suggest a position you can try
2.  most brand them kawawa because no one will take good care of them when they are sick and old

Sigh.





To you who intentionally or insensitively ask...

You do not know the struggles that they face each night and in every pregnancy test.  You also do not know how this may be affecting their marriages.  So again, I will ask you, embrace God's time table and let them enjoy the gift of intimacy, which is by the way not only made for pro-creation.  Their womb is different from yours, and just the same, God's plan for their family is far from yours.  Let their wombs be.  

To those who are being bugged.  Hugs.  You are beautiful just the same.  Aren't you glad only God can make us complete?  No amount of children, assets, or even career can make up for that longing - only Jesus! When you have Him, you (and your hubster) will just be fine.




HOMESCHOOLING FOR THE FIRST TIMERS

The world of homeschooling can be overwhelming.  From curriculum to provider to books to manipulatives, to pretty much everything.  I personally experienced this when we started to consider homeschooling Risen. Everything seems a bright idea, a wonderful option, or a much needed buy. That is why I was so thankful to Donna Pangilinan - Simpao who gave an intimate talk about homeschooling 2 months back.  Right after I listened to her I came to appreciate the following:

1.  How and when to start homeschooling - Do you know that the how  and when mainly involves the parents and child/children?  You could stay away from too much pieces of advice from groups, other parents or even from experts.  You basically need your family to start.

2.  The heart of homeschooling - What matters most in homescholing?  What makes one enjoy it?  What does it take to flourish?

3. Curriculum, budget and materials

4.  Types of homeschooling 

I have learned more things and I am so tempted to share this with you but I do not want to preempt Donna's talk this June 10, 2017.  Yes, she will have a discussion and a Q and A time for anything you want to know about HOMESCHOOLING FOR THE FIRST TIME.  


I would like you to reserve a seat and discover how you should begin your journey in homeschooling. I am sure that you and the other parents will be able to finally take off after this.  To add, we will also make sure that this would be highly interactive and activity based.  Meaning, you will not come home with theories, but with clear and particular steps you can use.  Your homeschooling journey starts here!  Are you ready?

You may deposit reg fee at
BPI Carmona Branch
Account Name: Soli Deo Events Mgt
SA#: 0980007898
Pls email deposit slip at mico.sadorra@gmail.com
Rate for 1 attendee: 1000
Rate for husband and wife: 1600
Contact me at 0932 5630133 ot mico.sadorra@gmail.com for more details 

WHY YOU SHOULD STOP AIMING FOR YOUR DREAM JOB

Are you loving your what you do everyday? Or are you stuck with the statements "walang magawa, kailangan kong magtrabaho" (I can't do anything about it, I need to work) and "enjoy na lang pa minsan-minsan." (I will just enjoy when I can) ? What if you can get away with these phrases and say "i love my daily life" instead? 

Don't get me wrong, I am not offering hurry rich schemes so you can just relax and earn. What I have in my heart is a change of mindset and heart. Allow me to continue.

When Bryan failed the bar exams last 2014, one of the things we asked was, "Lord, what do we do now?". Our hearts and minds were set on the idea that Bryan will pursue lawyering so when God said "no", we were kind of stuck. 

We continued to seek God and honor His timetable and as we have been doing this, we saw how we are enjoying the waiting. Bryan works as a full time teacher, I. as a stay-at-home mom.  To add, recently, we opened up a business as we try to homeschool Risen. It was slow, balanced, and more or less perfect for what we want - a little bit of everything. We never get burn out, we have ample time to serve the Lord, we can enjoy a lot of long holidays (because teachers are privileged of this), and we are tied to a schedule that allows us to spend time with each other. To be honest, are really happy with our day to day lives - we do not dread Mondays and we don't rush the weekend. We are loving our pace.



We stumbled upon this awesome lifestyle, when Bry did not pass the bar. It was more of like a blessing in disguise.  And slowly, God is revealing to us, why He said "no" that time. In one of our talks, we realized that we should not aim for a dream job but for the lifestyle that God wants for us. Come to think of it, why would you pursue and make your dream jobs the priority? Are you planning to just "work" all your life?

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It is sad that many people are working to their hearts' content but still ending up losing their lives. Also, a lot of parents are trying to build their kids' future without thinking that they are missing on what is happening now. Yes, your child's education is secured, but at what gain? 

My suggestion? Stop aiming for that dream job, instead focus your eyes on the lifestyle that you want then search for a job to go with it. Your work should never be your life therefore, pick the lifestlyle and not the job.  



This is my encouragement for most especially to those who are single because you have little to lose. You can risk your comfortable lives and regular jobs because, as you adjust, you are the only person who will be affected (unless you are the breadwinner). To those who are parents, I know it will be extra challenging because the word "security" becomes a totally different world when we become parents. However, my challenge remains the same. A child is looking up to you and I am sure that you would want him to remember you as a parent who valued him more than work. In their eyes, love means time.

If Bryan became a lawyer, I honestly do not know how our life will be like. Yes, we'd probably enjoy more meals in fancy restaurants, have a bigger home, buy the latest gadgets, but, at what  cost? Would we really really want that? 

Now, maybe some of you are thinking, how about the money? 

Let me say these: 
1. Where God leads, He provides 
2. Is money the real issue or is it contentment? 
3. Stop working hard, start working smart 
4. Do not let your companies kill you, your family and your life
5.Money is a need but do not let it drive you

So, should we all stop working?  Of course no. We need to work. Should we aim for a lifestyle then choose a work that will make that happen? Yes!! This is what we want

We all get to live only once and trust me, you want it balanced and focused on the life God wants for you. Start aiming for the life that you (and God) really want and work on it.