Are you also getting married soon? Congratulations!! If not naman, I guess you can still learn from this blog, so please continue reading :)

Aside from my clients (I host weddings), I know other couples who are getting married this year. And guess what? these love birds are younger than me so I was  not surprised when I was ambushed wiht the question "What advice can you give, ate?".  To begin, I was really glad they asked  ;) -- not that I am an expert, but because as most of us know, this is the most important decision one will make so it is really really really important to ask.  Did I forget to say "really?" :)

So, in case you want to know or you need ideas, let me share them with you.

1.  "Magpa-counsel kayo"
Plan for your marriage by seeking planned or intentional counseling.
A lot of couples sit down for long hours to plan a wedding.  They even hire a wedding coordinator     for an event that will happen for 5 hours.  They also have researched on what a great wedding looks like.  Is there anything wrong with this?  Of course, none! I actually did this too on my wedding.   However, the problem comes in when you spend more time in planning a wedding than your marriage.

My suggestion is to not do this in passing.  Allot a time, date and a person you can ask or counsel       you.  Sadly, the help you get from the church and government (one day group seminar) may not be     enough, so maybe, try to look for options on who can help you.  I believe many churches (CCF churches for example) and some organizations offer one on one counseling, so yes please, inquire :)   You can also  email me for recommendations.

At this point, maybe you are asking "why does this thing have to be specifically done?". Well, to be honest (1) though you have been together as boyfriend and girlfriend for the longest time, there are still things to be settled and realized. (2) to add, you will know the deeper meaning of marriage when you seat down and discuss it (3) you can ask your issues and concerns (as a couple, with each other, with in-laws and others) and lastly (4) This would be a safe way to discuss and settle problems that you have been avoiding or hiding under the rugs

2. "bumukod kayo ha?  Leave and cleave :) 
Follow God's blueprint .  I have a blog committed on this topic.  I hope you read it too.

3.  "Look at the marriage part as well"
Aside from loving your partner, embrace and appreciate the idea of marriage.  I have come to realize this after being married for 5 years.  When the honeymoon period is over, you can reboot it only when you know why you are married, what marriage is and the purpose for your relationship.  I think that when a couple fails to understand the biggest reason of their union, it will have the tendency to fall apart.  

Our marriages can never be perfect but a good start is a solid foundation.  Seek for advice. Gather information.  Accept correction and look for inspiration.  After all, the world of marriage is a lifetime. Best wishes!

Now to you who are already married, what advice will you give if asked?

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