IN TIMES YOU DO NOT FEEL LIKE BEING MARRIED

This post is due last Tuesday but I am only posting today because I am too lazy to write.  Yes, even the things you so love doing end up on your "to do list".  

And guess what? this also happens in marriage.  Sometimes, I do not feel like "being married".  In some occasions, I decide to lie down in bed instead of prepare breakfast for my Bryan.  I also sometimes put myself first instead of him and I intend to be so lazy in making intentional ways to improve our relationship.  Sounds bad for a marriage blogger like me?  

Good thing, the leadership conference we attended last week, boosted my spirit to be more loving, supportive and gracious to my partner.  All I thought it was my "leadership" that will be trained, little did I know that it will be my heart.  In that gathering, I have learned that ...

(1) My husband needs me.  And with that, I have to make sure I support, ask for his needs and wants and make him really see that I am the only person he would need in any angle of his life.  

(2) I am human and I need Him not only in my faith journey but also in my marriage.  That though my marriage is awesome, I should cling to God on this aspect of my life.  Sadly, we only rely on God when our marriages start to fall apart.  I was reminded to nurture my relationship with God and Bryan on a daily basis.  Not weekly, not monthly but daily.  There should be no room for "bawi ako tomorrow" (I will make it up tomorrow).

(4)  Lastly, God reminded me that in times I do not feel like getting married, I sin.  He made me remember why I said "I do". He made me recall the commitment I made to Bryan and to Him. To add, that I while I enjoy this relationship I must also take it seriously. Marriages are not only legal, they are holy! 

So in times you don't feel like getting married, remember that it is a sin. Just like any negativity, shake it off, pray  and love harder! The truest emaning of love is being able to love despite the feeling of "I don't feel like loving".   Remember your vows and reflect on that day you vowed to be happily (I am pretty sure you did this with smiles, right?) married forever! 

WISE WORDS FROM THE WIVES IN THE MINISTRY

Last September 8, 2017, I had the privilege to listen to the women, wives and mothers who are in the in the ministry of CCF (wives of Pastors).  It was a super refreshing time to hear their stories, learnings and tips on how they become better women for their husbands and children with the grace of God. I was just so excited to hear their voices love coz I would just often see them in CCF gatherings and conferences.  I must admit I often wondered how they are like ;) 

 Seriously now, since I also often find myself conscious and "lost" on how I can improve as Bryan's partner inside the church, I was really excited to listen..  As they talked, I sat on the edge of my seat trying to absorb and scribble the thoughts that made an impact in my heart.  

Praise God, I was able to write a few!  These are statements that were said by the six wives.  Just in case, you find one or two thoughts broad, please bear with me because these were written down in between their stories.  So sorry, I just can't give all the context behind each tip. 

Excited too?  Here is goes!

1.  Keep the humor
2.  Live to give not to get
3. Be your husband's number 1 fan
4. Make your husband happy
5. Make your husband a satisfied man at home and in bed
6.  Be a visual delight to your husband (this is my favorite)
7.  Say to yourself ..."I am my husband's only option"
8.  God is my priority schedule
9.  All my schedule depends on my husband's schedule
10.  Constraints are God's direction (another fave!!)
11.  After God, it is your husband that will tell you what to do (tinamaan naman ako ng bongga dito!!!)
12.  You can't change your husband
13.  Press on to the summit 

You would know my top three choices by now.  How about you?  What is your favorite? :)