Showing posts with label love story. Show all posts
Showing posts with label love story. Show all posts

UNSWERVING LOYALTY AND LOVE

“Forever Yours: Going the Distance” is the second couple’s retreat that Mico and I had attended. Coincidentally, the bulk of the conference focused on “Love and Respect: The Love She Most Desires and The Respect He Desperately Needs, ” topic which we have learned for three times already – first, when our pre-marriage counsellors required us to read the book with the same title by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs; second, when our church Dgroup discussed it in one of our sessions and third, in this couple’s retreat. Despite being exposed to the same topic for several times, the Lord has always prepared something new for us.

This year’s retreat allowed me to see how rewarding it is to do God’s command of “loving” my wife even if at times she appears to be unlovable. Loving her is not merely a responsibility that I need to do but a privilege for me to worship God since the main purpose of marriage is to adore Him. As a result, a rewarding marriage is experienced.

Our first speaker lectured on the “Blueprint on Marriage” as written by God, the author of every connubial. One thing that struck me is when he discussed the need for “unswerving loyalty" which entails knowing your wife on all aspects – physically, intellectually, spiritually and emotionally. I asked myself, “Do I know Mico that much? Is my loyalty to her unswerving to the extent that I know her on all facets of life?” However, these questions were clearly answered when our last speaker stood and expounded on the grace of God which enables each one to do what He has commanded us to do.

Indeed, it is only by His grace that we can copiously know our spouses, consequently, being one in serving God.With us in the retreat is a couple who are on their twilight years and has been together for almost 60 years. Both of them use canes. The wife even uses wheel chair if there is a need for a fairly long walk. Hearing their testimony made me appreciate God’s  sustaining love and grace. Their long journey together were full of successes and failures, but, despite all these, they recognize that the Lord sustained them and gave them His unwavering love that binds their love for each other through the ages. 

Having learned all these, the Lord reminded me that my marriage with Mico is work in progress according to His design. Looking back to what the Lord has done to us in the past two years of our marriage, I am excited to see what He has in store for us in the years to come as we continue our journey with Him.

FOUR Rs: A Guide to Choosing the "Right" Person

Last Febuary 14, 2014, we got up at 6am and headed to Cafe Breton for a hearty breakfast.  After this, I had my mani and pedi and Bryan had his haircut.  Though this was already a great way to spend Feb 14, we knew something bigger will happen.  That night, we had a chance to share how God moved in our lives through our love story.  A perfect time to share how God authored us.  And since we outlined our testimony, I decided to turn it into a blog. Read on.

**These thoughts and beliefs are in the context of being a born-again christian.  Examples used were also intended for HS and college students.

RIGHT MOTIVE

·         Ready to get married
·         Are you courting her because you need a gf? To show that you have a gf?
·         Have you ever prayed for it?
·         Did you ever pray for a lifetime partner even before you met her?
·         Did you ever ask God to direct you – as to whom to court. 
    
       If your reasons are because you feel lonely and incomplete, bala wala ng dumating, crush ko sya, magulo sa bahay ng parents ko, and kinikilig ako pag kasama ko sya, you might need to think things over.

RIGHT PLACE

·         any place is appropriate as long as the intention is not to hide.  In short, kahit saan basta hindi patago.

RIGHT TIME

·         Ready to make Mico my next priority after God.  After God, si Mico na.  Not my studies,       not my work, not my parents.

·         Assessed myself first
-          Ability to lead
-          Ability to support/sustain a family (has savings, stable income)
-          Ability to make firm decisions
-          Ability to be responsible for someone/family

·         Can fulfill ….
-          God’s plan for married people
-          words, dreams and promises into reality and actions.  It was NOT, balang araw papakasalan kita.  It was more of, liligawan kita kasi kaya at gusto na na kitang pakasalan.

·         You know it is the right time when you do not have to ask if it is the right time

·         Supported by family, friends and churchmates

      We both do not have issues (of the past and present). We are not moving on, kaka break lang, incomplete.

RIGHT PERSON – How did I know it was Bryan?

·         Got to know myself first
-          Comes with age and experience
·         Aware and firm with my non-negotiables
a.    Matured Christian
b.    Not an OFW - because I am not good with long distance relationship
c.    Will move out from his parents
d.    Not a Pastor - because I know I do not want and could not be a Pastor's wife
e.    Ready to get married
f.     Out-going

·         Ready for a clear and announced status
-          NOT “it is complicated”
-          NOT “special friends”
-          NOT “friends pero may kilig at malisya”
-          NOT “mutual understanding”
-          NOT “dedma sa personal pero super close sa FB, Instagram at Twitter”
-          NOT “kuya or ate”
-           
…status should be
-          Nanliligaw sya at nagpapaligaw ako
-          Bf ko sya, gf nya ako
-          Engaged
-          Considering each other for marriage

·         I knew it was him because I did not have to ask

·         He can make me follow

   KEY VERSES:

1 Corinthians 6:12
Everything is permissible but not everything is necessary
Ecclesiastes 3:1-8
 For everything there is a season,
    a time for every activity under heaven.
A time to be born and a time to die.
    A time to plant and a time to harvest.
A time to kill and a time to heal.
    A time to tear down and a time to build up.
A time to cry and a time to laugh.
    A time to grieve and a time to dance.
A time to scatter stones and a time to gather stones.
    A time to embrace and a time to turn away.
A time to search and a time to quit searching.
    A time to keep and a time to throw away.
A time to tear and a time to mend.
    A time to be quiet and a time to speak.
A time to love and a time to hate.
    A time for war and a time for peace

Genesis 2:23-25
This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.
Ephesians 5:33
However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.

1 Peter 3:7
Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered.

1 Corinthians 6:12
Do not be deceived:  Bad company corrupts good morals

2 Corinthians 6:14-15
Do not be bound together with unbelievers; for what partnership have righteousness and lawlessness, or what fellowship has light with darkness? Or what harmony has Christ with Belial, or what has a believer in common with an unbeliever?

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Thailand day 5 - (still) in Phuket


We woke up gloomy so I was afraid that it would be cloudy the whole day. I was so wrong though. The sun was up as soon as I got outside of our huge and glass walled bathroom.  We filled ourselves with fruits for breakfast then went straight out of room 233 to do some “hotel hopping”. 
What I loved about Mai-Khao (the part of Phuket where we are in) was that it was the most secluded and quietest part of the island.  Perfect for people who want to be in solitude and have candle-lit dinners by the shore instead of endless partying at night.  With this, there were only 3 places to stay in the area -- Renaissance, Sala and Marriott.  We hit Marriot first and saw how Thai the hotel is.  Every corner and architecture piece spells Asian.  Each turn showcases Thailand’s design, silk, scent and gods.  As we went to the beach area, there was even an elephant! How crazy is that?!  We walked through Sala hotel too and appreciated how modern and small it was. Perfect for parents who want to watch their kids as they relax.




We went back to Renaissance hotel to enjoy the Sand Box Restaurant and Bar – My favorite food place in the hotel.  I like this spot cause one can dine in your skimpy wear, be barefooted and feel the sand on your feet as you eat, and have the blue skies or starry skies as your view.  Tursitang turista ang peg!




We rested back to our room for awhile then walked to the pool for a swim.  The water was light and warm, perfect for the setting sun and cool breeze of the wind.  We sat to the pool chairs at times to enjoy the happy hour drinks, vegetate and stare at the paradise we are in.  Sigh. This is all what we did. Dip, drink, and stare - the beauty of doing nothing.





We skipped dinner for tonight is Noche Buena!! Our first CHRISTmas together!!!  We wanted to reserve buffet dinner but the restaurant is only open until 11pm.  I mean, Christmas begins at 12 midnight, it cannot end at 11 pm!!! Thus, we ended up having our Noche Buena at the hotel’s bar.  The people around us had alcohol on their tables while we had a complete dinner course!! At 12 midnight, we exchanged greetings and stayed some time to finish our meals.  We then walked out of the bar and stayed close as we sat on a wooded platform underneath the Christmas stars.  We missed our families, of course, but the fact that we are together in our most favorite time of the year made everything fade away.  It was Christmas of 2012 and we were finally married!!! <3 font="">





Thailand day 2 - (still) in Bangkok


It was nice to wake up because we just felt like waking up.  No alarm clocks.  No knocking on the doors - just our plain reflexes that got us up.  With no itinerary in mind, we freshened up then headed to the dining area for our breakfast buffet.  Since some of the staff are Pinoys, the food was only 30 percent Thai which means nothing too much to rave about.  I started with brewed coffee and Bry had his plate of fruits.  We ate and talked like best friends for almost two hours - teasing each other like newlyweds (ay, newly wends nga pala kami ;p). Oh the bliss of just being together, discussing random and silly ideas and enjoying every bite of our hearty meal.

Since we stood up with happy tummies, we decided to hit to the nearby tiangges to burn a few calories.  We scored a few pasalubongs for family and closest friends then chose the street food place where we can have authentic Thai food. I had Tom Yum and Bry had Pad Thai – and once again, I was delighted to have these wonderful flavors explode in my palette.  We snatched a Nuttela-Banana Crepe and Guava as we went up to our room.  The rest of the early afternoon was spent inactively with non-sense chattering on the side - don’t you love this?

In the late afternoon, we opted to people watch in the park and admire that we are actually together under the Bangkok slowly fading sun.  It was the honeymoon that we booked first – and when I say first, we did not have a wedding venue yet when we booked hotels in Thailand.  It was just beyond amazing to be in a place where you were discussing about before – what we have been planning and praying for all happened (and is almost halfway done?! Nooo!)

Since we have been practically eating all day, we decided to have late dinner at the nearby food stalls near the river.  This food place already caught my eye because it was a place with 3 things street plus foreigners plus Thai food = great place to dine!  We ended our meal inside a coffee shop because my company needs, badly needs tea – go figure! :D   

We walked hand in hand under the smoggy streets.  There was nothing neither romantic nor lovely on the roads we were crossing but the feeling that you are free to be together made everything sparkly.  I have a man I like and love and I am coming home with him tonight. 








FIVE (4, 3, 2, 1)

**originally written last July 2012



It was Bryan who reminded me that we are 5 months away from our big day.  That woke me up for he also sent me this text/reminder/message at around 6 am.  Five seems very real and near. 


5-4-3-2-1. 


At this time, I strongly feel two things – excited and apprehensive.  Excited because I just want to get married!!!  My mind and heart are so into it that I just want to plunge.  This causes me to be lazy to start or continue with anything because I know it would change drastically after saying “I do”.  Two of the changes are the two newest words in my life MRS and SADORRA. Naks naman!  I imagine myself lining up then someone will call me, “Misis, ikaw na po”.  Haha

Another major change is my moving out from my parents -- away from the beautiful south.  We are planning to stay in his home in Manila where we could totally and function as one (only the 2 of us in one abode).  I am delighted to manage a home and a husband.  I know it won’t be easy, but I am excited for this -- so let me be!haha.  Nevertheless, 1 of the downsides would be leaving my home church (blog to follow), but I am still grateful and thrilled for these changes. I know this is what God wants. 

However, this biggest decision that I have made in my life also makes me uneasy.  I can’t point my finger to anyone or to something – it is just the thought that we are so near the finish line (at least for the wedding) and I do not want anything too big to happen that will cause us sorrow or shock.  I mean, we are almost there!  I just want to get it over with! 

All the same, this “fear” that I sometimes feel (or create?) makes me lean more to God and to His perfect plan for us. I remember one of our favorite lines during prayer time, “God allowed us to meet (Muntinlupa meets Manila) even if we were not praying for each other or for anyone.  Ngayon pa kaya? That we are sincerely and fervently seeking God for our togetherness? So I (we) know He will be faithful just as He was faithful from the beginning. 

I'm convinced that God, who began this good work in you,
will carry it through to completion on the day of Christ Jesus.” Philippians 1:6


KILIG to the LINES!



I am a sucker of love stories.  Ang saya kaya! Fine at times not so fun BUT there is no love 
story that's not kilig at one point.  It may have ended tragically, but I am so sure that there was a point of shivers in your togetherness – imposibleng wala.

Anyway, one love story that I like telling/discussing in class or with friends (I am that advocate) is  Dead Stars .  It is a Philippine short story in English written by Paz Marquez Benitez. I read it first in HS, however I did not appreciate it that time.  But, it totally got to me when I taught it for the first time.  Yes, not when I read again it but when I discussed it in front of my high schoolers (teaching does wonders you know).

I can say that Dead Stars is my ultimate favorite Philippine Literature and I strongly believe that the most romantic line is in this 14 page story.  The line that goes like this:

“ He walked close, his hand sometimes touching hers for one whirling second.”


Aaaacccckkkkk!  KKIIILLLLIIIGGGG!!!


Imagine this:  

You are walking side by side with your crush/person you are beginning to like/person you like.  Then, the back of his hand will linger for a second on the back of your hand.  THAT ONE WHIRLING SECOND THAT TOUCHES YOUR HAND.  Oh my!  Yung hindi mo alam IF he will hold your hand or not.  That  moment!!  Not the holding hands part but the moment he could have held your hand.  That freaking .001 second!  Waaaahhhhh!!! Kinikilig ako!hahahahaha

Haaaaay.  Salute to Benitez for capturing that one second of kilig to the highest level.  Waaaaaahhhh I am so kilig! Bow. <3 font="font">